If you husband tells you that he doesnt love you any more and he is in marriage just out of obligation. WHat will you do?
Would you leave him?
Would you stay in a loveless marriage?
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If I had affection for him, I’d probably go all Kathy Bates in Misery.
“Eventually, you’ll come to accept the idea of being here…”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=enECGYRKDBU&feature=related
Not sure I could live with someone who was indifferent to my presence.
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Use a melon-baller to pluck his eyes out!
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If you husband tells you that he doesnt love you any more and he is in marriage just out of obligation. WHat will you do?
Would you leave him? Would you stay in a loveless marriage?
I was in similar situation. He told me many times that I and his unborn child do not matter to him & he can leave us without any problem and all that matters to him is his siblings , their kids & his parents. I stayed in that marriage even after that in the hope that he would change after his child will come into this world. I would have been his wife even now & would have stayed married to him if he had not verbally abused my baby & ignored her.
Marriage is a very sacred relationship and one should try till the very end. In arranged marriage love does not happen in days it takes years for the couple to actually love each other. I believe real love only happens after marriage when couples start living together as a family and start fulfilling responsibilities towards each other and have rights on each other. It's a matter of whole life time esp old age when mostly neither the beauty /youth is there nor health !
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love this one!
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I truly believe that marriage should be saved at all costs... I believe a woman has strong will power and patience to live in difficult situation and can work hard to save the marriage even if there is no cooperation from the husband.... I don't think any man can be harsh enough to keep on ignoring the care and love of his wife and is not forced to change his emotions and behaviour towards his wife...
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I can't imagine him saying that ever.
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or go Lorena Bobbit on him.
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I can't imagine him saying that ever.
Why ? What is the secret ? You can benefit others by revealing you secret.
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^I don't know the secret but he never said anything like this in our 8 years of marriage.
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I would leave him....its unacceptable. but knowing my fiance (soon to be husband), he would never do that, and if he ever did, he would be plagued with guilt if I didnt say anything, and just walked out on him. So that would be the biggest punishment for him. And I told him before, if you ever leave me, or do something of this nature, you literally have to come back on your knees to my parents house, in front of my parents and family, and apologize. So he knows he shouldnt mess up in anyway!
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I would thank God he's being honest.
immediate thought would be that i would put both of us out of our misery....separation or something
but then a thought would come why he doesn't love me if i do everything for him to make him happy.would a husband just say straight out that he doesn't love his wife. it's more by his actions isn't it. divorce is such a harsh thing for a woman, if a husband cares for his wife, respects her and her loved ones, and everything else is great in the marriage does that weird word love have to exist, nope :p
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I'd prefer to separate/divorce.. Couldn't deal with the thought of him being in bed with me whilst thinking of someone else or feeling as tho being with me is some sort of chore or he needs to be there out of some sense of obligation..
He should be with someone he really wants or loves (and hopefully I'll be able to move on and find the same).. I couldn't handle being in a dead marriage or one of convenience..
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What a painful scenario!
I would ask him in return:
Do you love someone else?
If yes, I would leave him so that he can live his life the way he wants. I would respect him for being honest and not cheating on me. Regardless, I would be hurt.
If his answer his no, then I would ask him: Would he rather continue the relationship just for friendship/companionship or would he rather that we separate? What we do will depend on his answer.
I would definitely stay in a loveless marriage if no second woman is/was ever involved and there is respect even if there is no love, especially if there are children involved.
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I would leave him....its unacceptable. but knowing my fiance (soon to be husband), he would never do that, and if he ever did, he would be plagued with guilt if I didnt say anything, and just walked out on him. So that would be the biggest punishment for him. And I told him before, if you ever leave me, or do something of this nature, you literally have to come back on your knees to my parents house, in front of my parents and family, and apologize. So he knows he shouldnt mess up in anyway!
If a situation arises where man has lost the love, he wont come back nor would he apologize.
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If a situation arises where man has lost the love, he wont come back nor would he apologize.
some men only realize what they have when its gone from them! I know someone this has happened to do. The guy left cause he wanted to be with someone else, and his wife let him go. And what happened???? He came back, cause the other person wasnt who he thought she was, and he was just lusting after the other girl...but realized that he truly loved his wife. You dont know what you've got until its gone!
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I love this film, I need to watch it again 
Hopefully, he’ll never say that. If he did I don’t think I could stay in a relationship with someone who was only with me “out of obligation”…so seperation/divorce it’ll be.
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some men only realize what they have when its gone from them! I know someone this has happened to do. The guy left cause he wanted to be with someone else, and his wife let him go. And what happened???? He came back, cause the other person wasnt who he thought she was, and he was just lusting after the other girl...but realized that he truly loved his wife. You dont know what you've got until its gone!
Did she take him back?
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Of course I'd hate the idea of being in such a relationship it'd be hard for both parties, but before I'd file for separation/divorce...I'd make him infertile. :)
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I'd ask him if he is willing to work on our relationship, if he is willing to figure out why he doesn't love me anymore and if saving this relationship matters to him. If it is important to him and he wants to make it work, I'd stay until he is willing to make it work. If he can't do it or isn't willing, I'd leave.
The strength of a relationship depends on how much you are willing to bear to make it work, but for it to be a healthy one, you have to know how much you WILL take. For me, I'd be willing to stand by for him to make his passage through a difficult phase (if it IS that) and if it isn't a phase but an end, I am out.