Is it true that after arranged marriage EVENTUALLY you fall in love with your husband/wife?
I mean you know how they say “beta arranged marriage ke baad phir Allah khuddi mohabbat qayam kar deyta hai dono ke beech mein”
How true is that?
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i wud think so........if both r nice 2 each other, love wl eventually follow :)
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Something similar being discussed here too .
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/wedding/401521-mohabbat-nikkah.html
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I wont lie, in some cases it works.
But then again, it also doesnt work. If there is initial physical attraction there, you can deal with the rest easily provided the guy doesnt have any serious issues.
If you arent attracted to him...then it will be hard.
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In most of the cases, it does happen.
It also depends on the "concept" of love. If you are assuming that guy and girl will behave like a teenager after falling in love (after marriage), then its not the case but that really does not mean that love is not there.
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i think it happens ... there was a similar thread that went on before
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You definitely get emotionally attached to each other, I don't know if you would count that as love :)
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It can happen of course but I would think it would be hard if there wasn't at least some attraction or spark.. If when u meet him u feel nothing at all and are just waiting for the minutes to tick by so u can get out of there I'd just move on.. Too many desi elders imo think of a husband/wife relationship as more of just a 'friendship with benefits' type of setup.. I don't think it's love, more like two ppl been brought together and just getting on with life..
That’s why in Islam the couple are meant to see each other first (with guardian), there should be some sort of spark/chemistry/attraction then that little seed of attraction will hopefully grow into love 
Contrary to what a lot of Muslims think there is also the concept of love before marriage ie some ppl can feel those intense feelings (and I don’t mean just a crush lol) even without any physical/sexual relationship before they tie the knot.
There’s a hadith that says something along the lines of ‘there is no better thing for two people who are in love to marry’.. will have to dig it out..
… lady I hope you are ready for the mullah brigade that is about to descend on thee …
I’m no scholar of Islam, so can’t confirm/refute any hadiths … but I am with you on the overall sentiment 
^ Lol, I will be back with that hadith tomorrow :D
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thats what they want you to think, lekin sub dhoka hai
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IMO, if you get a arranged marriage whats the rush? As in why cant you get to know him over a year or so period so you will see if you fall in love or not. If your not allowed to do that for God knows what ever silly reason.. Then your gonna have to go on 'are you attracted to him'
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Arranged marriage is what it says - 'arranged'
Arranged to remain in your 'caste' ,
Arranged for keeping the 'wealth' within the family.
Arranged to marry into an influential family,
Arranged to gain 'money' or 'dowry'.
Arranged - as in 2nd or 3rd wife to an old man.
Arranged to keep your parents promise to some one, etc etc
A woman can learn to respect her husband, fear him, bear his children - but no way can you call that 'love'.
Love is that 'flutter' of your heart, with the mere mention of his (or her)name.
Love is the 'blush' on your cheeks just with the thought of him touching you..
Love is the longing to hear his voice, to be near him.
Love is to willingly give your life for saving your beloved.
Love is the purest form of the union between man & woman.
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^ Arranged so that you can fall in love afterwards.
Arranged marriage is what it says - 'arranged' Arranged to remain in your 'caste' , Arranged for keeping the 'wealth' within the family. Arranged to marry into an influential family, Arranged to gain 'money' or 'dowry'. Arranged - as in 2nd or 3rd wife to an old man. Arranged to keep your parents promise to some one, etc etc
A woman can learn to respect her husband, fear him, bear his children - but no way can you call that 'love'.
Love is that 'flutter' of your heart, with the mere mention of his (or her)name. Love is the 'blush' on your cheeks just with the thought of him touching you.. Love is the longing to hear his voice, to be near him. Love is to willingly give your life for saving your beloved. Love is the purest form of the union between man & woman.
Are you saying that just because 2 people have met by arrangement, there is some solid and unseen law of nature that they cannot fall in love? I think this answer of yours is baseless.
Only people who meet eachother outside of arranged marriage are ever capable of falling in love? Silly.
IMO, if you get a arranged marriage whats the rush? As in why cant you get to know him over a year or so period so you will see if you fall in love or not. If your not allowed to do that for God knows what ever silly reason.. Then your gonna have to go on 'are you attracted to him'
Some desi parents panic that their kids might change their minds, back out and shock horror people will talk.. strangely the most important thing with them seems to be getting them to tie the knot asap regardless of issues of compatibility, attraction etc. They just want them married off to people they like at any cost hence those weird situations u sometimes get where the couple aren't allowed to see each other beforehand or if they do they aren't allowed to talk.. it even happens amongst some desi families in the UK... the whole thing is so messed up..
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I think its a thing our elders say becz If u get into arranged marriage u hav no other choice right? So eventually you will start liking what you have & compromise for it.
Arranged marriage is what it says - 'arranged' Arranged to remain in your 'caste' , Arranged for keeping the 'wealth' within the family. Arranged to marry into an influential family, Arranged to gain 'money' or 'dowry'. Arranged - as in 2nd or 3rd wife to an old man. Arranged to keep your parents promise to some one, etc etc
A woman can learn to respect her husband, fear him, bear his children - but no way can you call that 'love'.
Love is that 'flutter' of your heart, with the mere mention of his (or her)name. Love is the 'blush' on your cheeks just with the thought of him touching you.. Love is the longing to hear his voice, to be near him. Love is to willingly give your life for saving your beloved. Love is the purest form of the union between man & woman.
Live on your dreams beta. Your mother will say to you." Jub terey mahbooba biwi bun-nay k baad apna asli rang dekha-a gee to pata chalay ga k sair key kitni paktee hain."
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yes, I had an 'arranged' married - ie we met through my family!
yes, we got on like a house on fire when we started talking
yes, we fell in love
yes, I have had an extremely successful marriage alhamdulillah (may Allah make it get even better)
yes, I get on with the outlaws, in fact i actually adore them
yes, I fancy the pants off him and vice-versa
yes, even after 2 years it's still so fresh and we are still that crazy about each other if not more
yes, I believe that you CAN fall in love with someone who you get introduced to my the parents coz I am living proof.... :-) Alhamdulillah