Question For All The Married People Here, ..Arranged marriage !

[ipodberry]

Re: Question For All The Married People Here, ..Arranged marriage !

1) Arranged marriages (AM)
2) Love marriages (LM)
3) eMatched marriages (eM)

Love by itself is not the only factor for a succesful marriage.
Staying married is by itself does not imply there is love.

Marriage is about compatibilities.
Love does not imply compatiilty.

Where does all this lead to?

1) Chances of love forming after AM is quite high
2) Chances of marriage succeeding after a LM is high but <1
3) eM is just another AM

AM is led by the brain, herat follows.
LM is by the Heart but don't expect the brain to follow - it may though

All that aside remember - many many love affairs never become marriages. So any statistics about number of love marriages succeeding is false from teh start, if you are looking which is better

PS: there is a 4th possibility UM (Un Marriage) - but that is different

[waterfall99]

yes, I had an 'arranged' married - ie we met through my family!

yes, we got on like a house on fire when we started talking

yes, we fell in love

yes, I have had an extremely successful marriage alhamdulillah (may Allah make it get even better)

yes, I get on with the outlaws, in fact i actually adore them

yes, I fancy the pants off him and vice-versa

yes, even after 2 years it's still so fresh and we are still that crazy about each other if not more

yes, I believe that you CAN fall in love with someone who you get introduced to my the parents coz I am living proof.... :-) Alhamdulillah

Thats good,mashaAllah!

[Roxx]

@waterfall99

Is it true that after arranged marriage EVENTUALLY you fall in love with your husband/wife? * I mean you know how they say "beta arranged marriage ke baad phir Allah khuddi mohabbat qayam kar deyta hai dono ke beech mein" **How true is that?*

Try: not very. That statement sounds like a gross generalization. It's possible for two people residing in close quarters (regardless of the reason for it, marriage or otherwise) to grow closer to each other, or become more resentful and hostile towards each other, with each passing day: chemistry is funny that way.

Either way: any arranged marriage where neither party has killed or divorced the other is considered a successful one. Let's aim for that, shall we?

[yourfriend]

beta arranged marriage ke baad phir Allah khuddi mohabbat qayam kar deyta hai dono ke beech mein

nahi Allah **Khuddhi **nahi qayyam ker dayta... bunday ko khud mohabbat qayyam kerni parti hai.. aur baaz auqaat tou bari koosisshon kaysath.

[waterfall99]

@Roxx

Try: not very. That statement sounds like a gross generalization. It’s possible for two people residing in close quarters (regardless of the reason for it, marriage or otherwise) to grow closer to each other, or become more resentful and hostile towards each other, with each passing day: chemistry is funny that way.

Either way: any arranged marriage where neither party has killed or divorced the other is considered a successful one. Let’s aim for that, shall we?

I agree :k:

[Lusi]

Try: not very. That statement sounds like a gross generalization. It's possible for two people residing in close quarters (regardless of the reason for it, marriage or otherwise) to grow closer to each other, or become more resentful and hostile towards each other, with each passing day: chemistry is funny that way.

Either way: any arranged marriage where neither party has killed or divorced the other is considered a successful one. Let's aim for that, shall we?

I am not sure if that is really a successful marriage. A successful marriage is when both partners have a healthy relationship...