Queen of the kitchen

[Paheli00]

Re: Queen of the kitchen

@gudiaali

have also seen girls whose mothers won’t allow them to sleep in till late in the morning or won’t allow them to wear such and such types of clothes and then when they are married and if there in-laws also stops them from wearing particular kind of clothes or tell them not to sleep in till late, then these girls create a huge fuss over it. All they want is to move out for such trivial issues, do they attempt to move out their parent’s house as well when they put such restrictions on them?

@gudiaali

i am only against this mindset where girls are alright and never think about moving out if their own parents put restrictions on them, but do so when in-laws come in picture.

1. There is a BIG difference between dealing with your parents and dealing with in-laws. If a girl says/does something to upset her parents, then the situation is only between them. If a girl upsets her in-laws, it can disrupt her relationship with her husband.

2. There is also a BIG difference living in your parents home as their daughter…most girl do this when they’re minors or up until early to mid 20’s…relatively young. But once married, when a WOMAN becomes someone’s wife…when she already has given birth and is a mother herself…it’s beyond ridiculous for ANYONE to tell her how to cook, clean, what clothes to wear, what time to get home etc. Especially things like clothing, when she goes out etc. needs to be discussed only among husband/wife. When a guy’s parents decide that a WOMAN is old/mature enough to be their son’s bahu and start having sexual relations with the potential of becoming a mother…they need to realize that they’re not raising a daughter. At the end of the day, the grown woman who they chose to move into their home is their bahu/mother of their future grandchildren. Not a girl who needs to be raised by them and be told how to conduct herself on a day-to-day basis.

P.S. The double standard also exists among guys. Many desi men will put up with a lot of things from their own mother/father…but will get pissed off if their wife’s parents do the same thing. Living with in-laws itself is a perfect example. Men have no problem moving into their own elderly parents home to take care of them. But ask them to move into the wife’s elderly parents home so her parents aren’t alone and see how many are happy to oblige.