Queen of the kitchen

[Theorist]

Re: Queen of the kitchen

@gudiaali

i never said that DIL should not make food of her choice or she should compromise on each and every thing. where I have the problem is ,when girls just talk about moving out on petty issues without trying to understand the situation or trying to work it around.
Also, in the case of OP she never said that her MIL literally stops her from making food her way,she complained that she pours in her suggestions while she is cooking.
i am only against this mindset where girls are alright and never think about moving out if their own parents put restrictions on them, but do so when in-laws come in picture.

Are you married? If so, do you live with your MIL? If you answered no, you are not qualified enough to judge anyone who lives through this everyday. Putting up with this for a few days, maybe even years might be ok but if you have to deal with this nonsense everyday of your life for a very very long time, suddenly, it’s not a petty issue anymore. It becomes a very stressful situation because you have no idea when you will ever get to do stuff your way in your own home without someone CORRECTING what you do. Someone constantly watching you, making you feel so uncomfortable that you have to hide in your bedroom, try doing this everyday! There comes a time in everyone’s life when they NEED to live their life on their own terms. That time is usually when you have grown up, have a job, can feed yourself and your kids. Yet, parents or PILs still insist on correcting everything you do. There is no need for it. There is always more than one way of doing everything. Just because someone has experience doesn’t mean they have been doing it right the whole time. It’s wrong for parents and it’s wrong for PILs to FIX what their grown up children do. Parents need to let their kids LIVE and LEARN through their mistakes. They don’t need to keep raising you after you are married.