Queen of the kitchen

[ruby17]

Re: Queen of the kitchen

@Thornewood9

You might disagree but there’s plenty of families like this. And its not just cooking. Its a control issue. The MIL doesn’t want to give any control over anything to the DIL because she sees the house as hers and what she says goes. Its not about turning the system upside down. What is it haram to make one dish in your own style? Is the DIL supposed to Completely accept her in laws way of life? Their tastes and how they do things? Is she not allowed to bring something of her own into the house? Is she supposed to feel like a guest in her husbands home? And you can’t compare living with parents to life after marriage. After marriage you should be able to at least make food how you like. What about when the DIL has kids? Is she not allowed to make food the way she wants for her children or does everything have to be done now in the MILs style? Is the DIL supposed to live the rest of her life compromising everything for her in laws?

Exactly this. I tried to do some adjustments like reducing spice and salt and then not cooking meat without veg when they complained about these things and I didn’t have an issue with doing that. But beyond that I feel like things telling me how to slice and peel and refusing to eat when the food is made the way hers is is unecessary and there is some deeper control issue.