Re: Queen of the kitchen
Ruby, it’s not necessary that you cook according to your own recipes…in order for you to show your love/contribution toward your husband and marriage. The fact that you gave his mom some rest and put in the effort to cook a meal that fed your husband and his parents (even if it’s according to mil’s way) is still a contribution and a gesture of love. And maybe even more so if you do it with compromise and with a desire to maintain the peace in the home. With time they may get used to your cooking. You can start off small…such as with making desserts or a snack etc. And as suggested earlier, you can make two salans.
As for the cleaning, don’t do it so that they will notice and appreciate you. Just do it because it’s the right and hygienic thing to do, lol. The fact you did it all the time is what wore you out. Things like dusting and vacuuming don’t need to be done daily. You can space the tasks out so you don’t get tired. If the whole house gets cleaned when visitors come…that’s a lot of cleaning to do in a short amount of time. It’s less stressful when it takes place regularly…whether that’s weekly or whatever…and it can be in bits and parts so that you don’t exhaust yourself. You haven’t complained that your mil is a mean or nasty woman. You said that you have a nice equation with her…and given the horror stories you read here…that’s a blessing to be grateful for, MA. So, if life is imperfect but still pretty decent don’t make it difficult for yourself.