what if you find out that your fiance is a qadiani? what would you do? lets say you are emotionally attached to him then?
And its not about me please so dont assume
I dont understand the question? Is being a “qadiani” bad or something?
^ you need to google qadianl sect
If you are a non-qadiani muslim, and take religion even a tiny bit serious......then you have two options
- The fiance converts
- You break the rishta
If you are not religious, and your family don't give a shizz........then go ahead.....
Okay, i will, but that doesnt answer what i asked
It's strange that the girl didn't know that before the engagement. Was it purposefully hidden or did the fiance not think it's important to tell upfront what he follows?
It really depends on how important her beliefs are for her.
true i agree
I dont think fiance should be stupid enough to convert but kuch log pyaar me bohat pagal ho jate he
I think mirpuris are mostly qadianis 
It was never asked & assumed he is sunni. No one told, no one asked.
oh well......the fact that they didn't tell is a major red flag.......sneakyness is never good...i say drop it.
Mirpuris are (mostly) qadianis? Who said this?
dont know, may be they are. Was just wondering.
^ No, they aren’t.
I’m not sure if Qadianis are only found in Punjab, however I know of a qadiani person whose surname is Syed and another person who claimed to be ethnically Kashmiri.
KAshmiris are mirpuris as far as I know
Mirpuris aren’t Kashmiris, they’re ethnic Punjabis who speak Punjabi dialects. Ethnic Kashmiris are different. A truth Mirpuris find hard to accept.
@stressed the answer to the question what your friend should do is very clear but painful. She needs to end this relationship, as going ahead with this marriage will be a bad move. First, her marriage will not be valid, and second, they hid this and it shows bad intentions. Trust me, the emotional attachment is not worth it. The emotional attachment before marriage is wayyy different than after marriage. She isn't married yet. She will survive.
Second, even if he were to convert, it would be for show only and the problem would still be there. And when kids enter such a marriage, would she be willing to go thru a possible scenario where the husband will insist on raising them as qadianis all of a sudden?
Whenever there is a question of relationship with people that belong to either different sect or faith (happens a lot htese days), all I ask is look yourself in longterm like 10 years, 20 years or more. Do you see yourself not running into any conflicts due to your SO acting on a different faith? If you see that there may be a slight chance then back off. If the answer is no, then sure go ahead.
There are a ton of inter-faith and inter-sect marriages being very successful as well. But since majority is still coming from conservative mindset, most cases are still not successful. In the end it all depends upon the two involved.
for everyone saying the guy hid the fact that he is Qadiani, if the questions was never asked, then that's not hiding or lying. hiding/lying would be if he or his family was asked what sect of Islam he belongs to, and he says something other than Qadiani. maybe the guy's family is also assuming she is Qadiani too, and her family hasn't revealed what sect they belong too. so it goes both ways
Want to make one thing clear that ISLAM is very clear about inter-faith marriages and there are verses that forbid it and you literally have no say over this. Now if you don't give a damn about religion n Quran then of course you can do whatever you wanna do. It's that simple!
Secondly @akaprincess said scholars are humans and they could also be wrong. Well one scholar could be wrong, two could be wrong, three could be wrong but not ALL the scholars of ALL the sects could be wrong. There is a complete agreement among ALL the scholars of ALL the sects over this matter..
Being a good person is more important, what if you run into a guy with same beliefs and he is rishwat khoor, baimaan, abuser, milawat khoor?? Love should trump all. Here it is more common for the guy to change religion instead of girls as females here are the moral leaders of the house, unless they are sheltered, dependent and uneducated.
@akaprincess With Islam being black and white, I was talking about inter-faith marriages. Men technically can marry Jewish and Christian women while Muslimahs can only marry muslim men. Yes, there are families where inter-faith marriages for muslimahs is accepted or where muslim men can for example marry a Hindu woman but it’s not allowed. In this day and age we’re doing or accepting many things, but the quran is very clear on this issue.
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As for the many sects of Islam, there’s hadiths that mention that there will be 73 sects and only 1 will be granted Paradise, the other 72 will go to Hell. Islam is black/white in many ways, it’s us people who deviate and form sects.
Plus, we really ought to know about the aqeedah etc of a sect who claims to be muslim, as well as our own aqeedah whether you’re Sunni or Shia. Ahmadis, for example, claim that their founder Mirza Ghulam Ahmed, was the promised Messiah and Mehdi. I mean…
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