i want to continue my studies ,when my lil one was born i took a year off and now the semister is going to start,so i have to decide ,my lil one is 14 months old and i have no experience of day care.my hubby is not in favor of daycare neither am i ,but we dont have anyother option.
please tell me is the day care option bad? as my friends say that he will get neglected and its not healthy for him to growup in daycare.
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Try it. I was in the same shoes as you...Mine was about 3 at that time. I chose the Day care that was close to my Husband's job so that he would check on her at Lunch hour etc..(not a good choice since I had to add an eextra 30 mins to my commute)Also I chose the one that offered that you could see them online since there were cameras(which I didnt get to do too)
My daughter didnt like it a whole lot since she was there part time(according to my class hours) and they have this schedule of sleeping ...that she couldnt follow as she was not there whole day and not as tired.She also picked a lot of bugs worst of which was the stomach one...but kids can get it from anywhere...it was just more severe come to think of it since my other one goes to a school too now.
Anyway after the semester, I chose to send her to a Montessori school rather then a day care. The timings are like regular schools but he good thing is that there is a lot of learning..and most of all she loved it there.
Will you be going full time to school.Have you seen classes that would fit in to a Mother's day out programs etc. I consider those better options then the "all day daycare:)
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if you can...
wait til he is 2 (preferably 3 if thats not pushing it for you) then put him in a good montessori school. by then he is a bit older, able to talk and express his feelings more. So if he is not happy or neglected in any way he can tell you.
If you put him in a good montessori program he will benefit a great deal as oppose to putting him in a day care.
Try it. I was in the same shoes as you...Mine was about 3 at that time. I chose the Day care that was close to my Husband's job so that he would check on her at Lunch hour etc..(not a good choice since I had to add an eextra 30 mins to my commute)Also I chose the one that offered that you could see them online since there were cameras(which I didnt get to do too)
My daughter didnt like it a whole lot since she was there part time(according to my class hours) and they have this schedule of sleeping ...that she couldnt follow as she was not there whole day and not as tired.She also picked a lot of bugs worst of which was the stomach one...but kids can get it from anywhere...it was just more severe come to think of it since my other one goes to a school too now.
Anyway after the semester, I chose to send her to a Montessori school rather then a day care. The timings are like regular schools but he good thing is that there is a lot of learning..and most of all she loved it there.
Will you be going full time to school.Have you seen classes that would fit in to a Mother's day out programs etc. I consider those better options then the "all day daycare:)
i posted before reading this...
i agree...Montessori is way better. Children actually learn a great deal. Even their infact care program is better. You have more teachers and less students as well.
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Personally I wouldnt want to ever put my children in daycare, but if I absolutely had to, I would only put them in daycare if he/she were at an age when they would be able to come home and tell me about their time there, and if ever (God forbid) something bad happened, that they would be able to tell me about it (so at an age when they would be able to communicate that much)
Before that age I would only trust them with someone I knew well and trusted (like my mother or someone close)
If you really must put your child in daycare, do your homework well, talk to other parents, visit different daycares, see what programs they offer and what qualifications their teachers have, so you can make the best decision for your child this way
ohh GOSH AE u replied just like my mom:hehe: she says no need to send him to daycare .send him to pakistan ,here i can takecare of him.
you guys are right ,he is too young to be in a day care.
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do people not have decent day cares around? Now i have seen many crappy day care centers but there are many good ones around as well.
my kids have been going to day care, it has an excellent caregiver to kid ratio, they have planned activities, play time, drawing time etc.
they are now going to to half day preschool and then go to the daycare for a few hours, but they used to go to the daycare for full day until last fall.
we get a written report each day even noting their mood throughout the day, how well they ate, when they went to the restroom, projects they worked on and everything. there is indoors and outdoors play areas, the place is sparkling clean. I have zero complaints against the place.
To me a formal daycare center is better than a homebased daycare that solo aunties run or a nanny even. Kids are more engaged, have formally trained caregivers each has been screened for criminal background and the center meets fairly robust licensing requirements.
Sheen- every person has a unique situation, what is ideal for one may not be possible for someone else. My sis had sent her kid to her mother in law and my mum for a bit and it was very tough on her and it was very tough for the kid to be away from parents and the having to leave ppl that played the parent role and back to parents. Its not a good idea.
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What X2 mentioned, the daycare I sent my kids to was the same.they give you reports etc..but the thing is really dependent on your situation. If personaly I had to chose between sending my kids to (as u mentioned to Pakistan) or daycare...I would most definitely choose Daycare in a heartbeat...I can never imagine being away from them for more then a few hours:) Also not a good idea of choosing some desi based or home based ones.Always check their accreditation
i posted before reading this...
i agree...Montessori is way better. Children actually learn a great deal. Even their infact care program is better. You have more teachers and less students as well.
Always a better choice that is if there is a choice:)
Sheen: Some Montessoris start at 18 month old too.
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Sheen, not all daycares are the same. My friend who is an ex montessori school teacher runs a licensed daycare from her home. She has a separate area set up for just 10 kids, she prepares their meals, and has an awesome curriculum. I have seen the kids at her place totally loving it. It's like a family set up but with all the right discipline and instruction.
So if you are concerned about leaving her in a daycare that has many kids, you may want to check out an arrangement like this.
if you can...
wait til he is 2 (preferably 3 if thats not pushing it for you) then put him in a good montessori school. by then he is a bit older, able to talk and express his feelings more. So if he is not happy or neglected in any way he can tell you.
If you put him in a good montessori program he will benefit a great deal as oppose to putting him in a day care.
The best answer so far Sheen if you can wait otherwise you can always find good daycare too instead of sending children to Pak or anywhere else.
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sheen, you would need to go to the daycares and see what they have tour it, you will know.
talk to other parents who have kids there, and likes/dislikes etc. You can get further info about them from licensing authorities as well.
I used to have my kids go to a desi lady, very nice, sweet, gentle, kind..but kids watched a lot of TV at her place and we were not comfortable with it.
as we saw other daycare places, we knew..you will be able to shortlist very quickly. the location, who are the other kids there, the staff, how the place is managed, you will pick up if that is not a good place. so thats gut feel, for the rest of the real info, i noted that above.
whatever you do, wherever the kid is at, start slow, couple of hours at first..
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childcare not daycare.....:(
YES ! i am asking a lot of people reagarding their experience wid daycare and trust me the stories are very scary.infact most people are saying that he is so small that instead of daycare i should consider a LIVE IN MAID.
personally i am not in favor of maids
well sometimes in life some decisions are soo hard to make:sigh:
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Sheen - These decision are hard esp on mothers. My kids started in daycare at the age of 2. 14 months is still a bit small because your child cannot communicate.
Just be prepared - they will get sick initially (infections etc). There is a transition period. It's tough for the kids and the parents for the first 2-3 weeks.
My daughters went to excellent daycare - they had daily reports, activities. They had a "no yelling" policy. Still it's NOT the same as you or your husband taking care of him.
There are pros and cons to everything. "At home help is not that reliable but atleast your child will be at fimilair surroundings".
I would get a relaible nanny for atleast for another year. She can help you with house stuff as well. I would NOT put him in daycare at 14 months.
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^ u really need to spend a little time at the daycare, talk to ppl abt it, check reviews etc...some are good n some not so, i worked at one when i was like 16, it was owned by two desi sisters... they were really evil, they would hit the kids...if they were bad (which of course isn't allowed)
i was too young to do anything but i knw another teacher comp. abt them to the services...they got in trouble but since nothing was on camera...nothing was done.
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I agree with X2. You should investigate your options thoroughly. If you can find a good daycare, I recommend it. My son who just turned 2 is now in his 2nd daycare, which he loves. This place also has very few students per teacher, and the teachers are actually very caring. I get a daily report of what he did/ate/bathroom etc...and if ever there are issues I able to talk to them, and also if anything happens they call me. I have been lucky with this place. Plu sit is enriching, they have an excellent program, curriculum, activities are planned. They have so many activities/which teach so many different skills, and just keep them occupied in a healthy manner, as opposed to watching tv all day with a nanny.
Again you have the good/bad/ugly centers so make sure to do research. If you do happen to find a caregiver, I would recommend getting a certified one, with a thorough background check. There are desi anties who will sit the kid in front of tv all day or there are some nannies, that also plan out activities for the child thru the day that are enriching. Best of Luck.
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well, i m full time profession, i took 4 months off from work. my daughter is take in care by desi lady ,so many ppl recommeded me her. I don't like the day care myself as i have heard bad things aoubt,,but i m sure there are better ones out there. At this moment, my daughter is the only one she baby sits.
Personally I wouldnt want to ever put my children in daycare, but if I absolutely had to, I would only put them in daycare if he/she were at an age when they would be able to come home and tell me about their time there, and if ever (God forbid) something bad happened, that they would be able to tell me about it (so at an age when they would be able to communicate that much)
Before that age I would only trust them with someone I knew well and trusted (like my mother or someone close)
If you really must put your child in daycare, do your homework well, talk to other parents, visit different daycares, see what programs they offer and what qualifications their teachers have, so you can make the best decision for your child this way
yep.
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Sheen, is it possible for you to take classes in the evening when your husband can watch your little one?