Thanks.
Munni, I do have a comment. I think you should be a bit more hard on people and start bashing people like the one you mentioned for a change. You "niceness" or "naivete" is unreal and comes off as pity-seeking.
Instead of asking for people's opinions you should have just gone ahead and called him a ch******. Try it, it's liberating.
The guy is an idiot and obviously has insecurities about himself. Who the heck lifts up their shirtsleeve and points out their real skin colour? What a loser! Don't waste your time thinking about his idiotic comments/behaviour.
Roman, this happened a loooongg time ago. Wanted to share the experience to see if others had been through it and possibly understand other peoples psyche. For example, if you felt that way or did it to someone else, I'd like to know why. Naive perhaps, but I still like to inquire. Not seeking pity on this. Just because people have negative experiences and share them doesnt always mean they seek pity. We just have negative experiences and perhaps want to learn from them by sharing what others think.
This thread wasnt to bash him or call him names. He had issues, and so do I, but I'd like to know what MADE him say that. Perhaps I should have asked him but lets say you did that to someone, maybe you could tell me how you thought of the situation.
I dont need anyone to tell me to ignore such comments and to tell me everything will be alright, cause I know to do that already, and life does go on past peoples comments. However it is nice to know that people care for others well-being, and so they tell me to ignore such comments. Sometimes we all need to be told things, but that wasnt the purpose of this particular thread.
Thanks for the comment!
Who the heck lifts up their shirtsleeve and points out their real skin colour?
Mehnaz, during summer when my skin gets a little darker due to playing under the sun, I usually lift up my shirt and show women my bare chest (and abs) to show them how much less darker I'm during winter.
u should have been like why dont u take ur lil light wristed hand and put it where the sun dont shine..
Oh Munni you are too nice to people at times, you should of did the same to him.
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rotfl Superb response. :k:
…>>I’d like to know what MADE him say that.<<
Munni, i agree with Mehnaz. i am not so certain it’s a useful exercise to attempt to understand what “made” him say that. Whatsoever his response may be, how can it ever justify his behaviour? It does not matter whether he was expecting you to fulfil his idealized phsyical image of women, or whether he wanted you to be lighter-skinned. Uss kai dimaagh mai jo bhi tha, whatever his reasons for behaving that way - no reason can justify behaving that rudely and stupidly.
For the record - anyone who lifts up their shirt sleeve and states “What you see is not my real skin color, im actually lighter” - he might benefit from a little bit of counselling to help him overcome his insecurities and desires; some basic etiquette lessons wouldn’t hurt either. Bottom line, at the end of the day, Munni - consider your experience a blessing of sorts that now you do not have to know this bloke nor, hopefully, ever meet him again. Let him lift his shirt sleeves to other girls and brag about his oh-so-fair-skin-colour. 
IMHO he’s not worth your time.
Munni you should put your statement like this..
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What I dont get is, why did he say what he did?Can a person be that put off just by seeing someone that they seem to be offended you are living in the same state as them? They cant even be civil in a conversation? I realize I might be off-putting to some people, but does that give them the right to say that? I suppose people can say whatever they want in the end.
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Can someone please teach the loony to think before he speaks!?!!i can't imagine living in the same city as this Loser!
He doesnt even know what a converstation is!
If he thinks he's white striped skin is a turn on then he better get a reality check.. I suppose i'm a stuck up bitch, i dont give a ****....
Munni-
That freak just aint worth your time to even think about. who knows and who cares what motivated him. If he was a desi, then apparantly he has the colonial mentality about skin color.
His behaviour is beyond rude, nothing words can describe. No one has ever done that to me. If anyone ever does that to you again, or behaves in an inappropriate manner, point it out then and there. Get it out of your system, then you'll never think of that incident again. Nip it in the bud.
please the guy doesn’t know what hes talking about its like these people that u ignore and get on with life if that was me i would give him a piece of my mind! 
Munni, forget the loser. He made those remarks out of extreme insecurity! Especially the remark about his skin color, out of the blue, was just bizarre! What a wacko...please stay away from people like that in the future also.
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Hey Munni, I can understand how you must have felt. Almost all of us go through this, face such people in our lives. Sometimes these people are very close to us and at times they aren’t related to us. The point is that its people’s own insecurities as clearly mentioned by someone that comes out in one way or another.
If you are confident about yourself than you dont need to bother about such low lives. You saw me, right. 
Well, I have heard people talkig about me right in front of me without realizing that I was close enough to hear everything. I have had my people saying things on my face. 
I am not dettered. One feels such things. But learn to ignore. 
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Looks like a weirdo to me.
What do you mean with: "I've met people whom were not "impressed" after seeing me"
Did they tell you that?
Who cares why he said what he did? Bottom line is would you want to be a person like that? Not many people would so I guess you should maybe feel sorry for the guy and leave it at that.
i wish i could pulverize this ignorant lil crapola
I’m not trying to be facetious for once but maybe I missed something, you said this guy was going to tell you about the city……but the replies are more orientated towards a date?
I think one thing you should learn from this experience is to know where you stand before you go and meet someone, is it a prospective friend or a blind date sort of thing. Maybe by showing you his tan line he was telling you to be careful about the sun index in those parts. Maybe he did have to go meet another friend.
I don’t think you should take all this so personally there are a lot of fruits out there and not all of them are for eating.
I'm sure you're just lovely and don't need to analyse such situations beyond the 'wasn't he a funny fella' stage.
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*Originally posted by Roman: *
Who the heck lifts up their shirtsleeve and points out their real skin colour?
Mehnaz, during summer when my skin gets a little darker due to playing under the sun, I usually lift up my shirt and show women my bare chest (and abs) to show them how much less darker I'm during winter.
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Do you also lower you pants and bend over to show your almost-white-in-winter butts? You probably do. Thats what made NYAhmadi fall in love with you on the first date.
Munni,
I can tell that you didn’t know enough about the guy and even YOU don’t know why he said what he said. You know what, he could mean anything by that, it could be negative or positive. But if you’re wise enough to learn a lesson which is: if you don’t know the person then you shouldn’t go out with him/her because when things like these happen with you, there will be no one who will be able to explain you “why” such said such thing. So becareful next time.
WoW, didnt expect so many responses, hehe. Good stuff. This wasnt a "date". He had a girlfriend, which was mentioned to me before we met.
It's true that I should have ignored his comment initially, but it did hurt. This was a few years ago, and over a week or two I felt bad, but then let it go. I think most of us remember negative things people have said to us, but this thread wasnt to bring out the positive I learned from the experience.
My concern isnt about HIM. Its about this line of thinking. Perhaps some of the people that read this board have similar views as the guy mentioned, and they dont want to come forward. That is why I shared this experience, to perhaps ask others to question their behavior. Would love it if someone would confess they have said the same thinking, so that I can understand this line of thinking.
Lets face it, there are people in this world who hold skin color very important, and this example is perhaps extreme, but it isnt out of line with how a lot of people think these days about color of skin. I know because I talk to people regularly, have spoken with aunties, and nobody can deny its a big issue with some in the community. You face it when you see rishtas, etc.
Do you want peoples thinking to change or do you want them to just cover up their thinking and pretend all is well? Do you prefer the honesty or do you lambast the frankness?