I just have to come here and express my sudden absolute out burst of anger.
Now I have not cared about this for AGES and AGES - Months
There was a guy who I really liked, we were very close friends. It was all rather complicated and as usual I chose some mental person to like.
Anyway the added complication to this situation is a girl who used to be close to me took an opperunistic moment like some parasite decided she would run her little legs along into his arms, divulge everything I had every said/felt about him and become his little puppy.
I just saw them cruising along in his nice car which I helped him chose all snazzily dressed listening to a song which I love whilst I walked in rain from a corner shop.
I now feel sorry for myself momentarily. I also feel very very angry all of a sudden.
so what you are trying to say is that girl went up to him and divulged about your feelings to him as in the fact that you liked him? But now are those two together or something?
And even if they are then that guy is obviously a loser too..and doesn’t deserve you
Inspi....What exactly did she do ...or tell him about you?
Well, she's not a friend. And I think you should act happy/normal around her.....like you don't have a care in the world....like she can have the guy that she earned in such a cheap manner and who was too dumb to see that in her. Fake the attitude if you have to. Besides, you said he was maaantal....so you don't want somebody like that....unless he's maybe like a patient, lol.
I wouldn't be surprised if the relationship doesn't work out for her. You'll find someone better. Chalk this up to experience....you have to be careful about how much you divulge to even friends...it's one lesson that keeps cropping up (I think) as you grow older.
Thank You eni - basically she knew I liked him as she was my friend and the fact I did like him was stupid anyway it would never work that is a whole other pointless story. She (after me and him had established it would obviously never work ) went and befriended him and told him how I felt the kind of dumb giggly things you say to girls which or things which i said in passing when i was annoyed.
I was upset at the fact my friend chose a man over me.
I havent cared for a long long time because those two deserve each other.
But the sight of it just made me so angry.
Nomi throwing pebbles sounds brilliant.
RV that made me laugh thank you! I never see either of them really but seeing it today just I dnno, Because I was carrying heavy bags in the rain lol it just made me feel kinda weird.
Been there done that. In my case, I had the last laugh (so I think anyway).
When I was 18, I had a HUGE crush on a guy in college. We were friends…although we never officially “dated”…just from his flirting, I was under the impression that he liked me. Of course, my best friend knew all about him (she went to a diff. college). When she came to visit over summer (a year after I met him)…I introduced them. To make a long story short…2 weeks after I introduced them…I found out through a 3rd party that him & her had been “hanging out” by themselves.
I confronted her. She said I was being paranoid and that they were just friends. I had a total “freak out” and ended my frienship with BOTH of them. It was a very painful time for me. A few months later, I found out through a mutual friend that they were officially dating.
They dated for 3 years. And yes, during those 3 years, during the summers…I actually saw them “together” on my campus b/c she’d come to visit him. Now the following information I found out through our mutual friend. After 3 years of dating…he was going to propose to her. She went on overseas vacation with her family…meanwhile he bought a ring to propse (the mutual friend who told me this was her roommate at that time and helped him pick out the ring). As soon as she returned from her family vacation…she dumped him!!! :halo: Why? B/C apparantly while on vacation…she met another guy!
Of course he went out of the “picture” and so I have no updates on him. But it’s been quite a few years…I know for a fact that she’s currently single (she might be dating someone but she’s not engaged or married). And I’m planning my wedding with my fiance who had been my partner for 3 years.
Lesson from my experience: Everything happens for a reason. People like that don’t deserve your time or energy. Move on and pick your friends more carefully in the future…it seems painful now but I promise it gets better.
Wow Paheli that is pretty much the exact same situation apart from it is a more recent thing for me.
Thank you for sharing it because it has made me feel better.
InshAllah my story will have a happy ending too.:)
I'm sure it will. I know right now it's painful....but time does heal. With my situation, I was hurt/pissed off/bitter for a long time. I can't tell you how much tears I shed over it. It was several YEARS before I was finally able to "let go". And now....being where I am today.....if I could go back and give advice to myself at 19.....I'd tell myself not to waste so much time being upset/bitter over it. It really was not worth it. I missed many opportunities for happy memories b/c I was too focused on the pain.
Many others before you have gone through identical situations....made it through and became stronger as a result. Think positive......surround youself with people who truly care about you.....and know that you're not alone. :)
Or, yeah, just pretend like you never liked him and don't care about the friend. Make it seem like your friend is the mental one who made up lies that you liked the guy.
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Now the following information I found out through our mutual friend. After 3 years of dating…he was going to propose to her. She went on overseas vacation with her family…meanwhile he bought a ring to propse (the mutual friend who told me this was her roommate at that time and helped him pick out the ring). As soon as she returned from her family vacation…she dumped him!!! :halo: Why? B/C apparantly while on vacation…she met another guy!