An observation I made the other day - Punjabi men are more possisive of their wives.
Guys typically from Karachi are more open minded. They don't care if their wives are friends with their male friends. Their wives call my husband by the first his name - no bhai added. They all sit together in one room (guys and gals) and joke around openly
Guys typically from punjabi households - don't particuarly like their wives mingling with their guy friends. Wives are friends with their male friend's wives. Most of them refer to my husband as "Bhai".
Any one else notice that?
It is oversimplification of very complex phenomenon. Conservatism is not limited to any particular group. And liberalism is not a trait limited to some other particular group of people.
Mizzrani - there are some couple that DONOT want us to refer to them as bhai or bhabhi.
Women in particular - don't want to be called bhabhi because maybe it makes them seem older. They say that to my hubs that call me by my NAME.
I like bhai and bhabhi - but some ppl find them offensive!
Ooook thats a different story..Personally I like it when someone calls me "bhabhi". i get all warm and fuzzy. But if someone didn't--i wouldn't be offended by it.. But i think it boils down to the individual..and not thier culture/ethnicity.
i think its all depends on the person and their families. I m urdu speaking but have family in lahore n if i just considered guys frm karachi vs. lahore (in my family only) thn yes njgal theory is correct. BUT my finace who was born n raided in lahore ...is very open minded. so the same doesn't follow for urdu speaking or punjabi.
An observation I made the other day - Punjabi men are more possisive of their wives.
Guys typically from Karachi are more open minded. They don't care if their wives are friends with their male friends. Their wives call my husband by the first his name - no bhai added. They all sit together in one room (guys and gals) and joke around openly
Guys typically from punjabi households - don't particuarly like their wives mingling with their guy friends. Wives are friends with their male friend's wives. Most of them refer to my husband as "Bhai".
Any one else notice that?
I dont know how can you generalize things this simply but I am from KArachi and my best friend is a Punjabi. We in fact are 4 best friend (2 from punjab and 2 of us from Karachi) and we meet almost every weekend my wife call them ___ bhai, their wives call me ____ bhai, I call them bhabi ....they call my wife bhabi .... we all have dinner together, we sometimes sit in same room and talk if we have a common topic of discussion else girls have their own little meeting in another room, in summer break we all go for fun together...
It has more to do with the upbringing of a person/nature of a person than "punjabi" or "karachite"
So if you want a liberal partner then you have to go for an urdu speaking person, and if you want a traditional, conservative type then a punjabi? Interesting.
An observation I made the other day - Punjabi men are more possisive of their wives.
Guys typically from Karachi are more open minded. They don't care if their wives are friends with their male friends. Their wives call my husband by the first his name - no bhai added. They all sit together in one room (guys and gals) and joke around openly
Guys typically from punjabi households - don't particuarly like their wives mingling with their guy friends. Wives are friends with their male friend's wives. Most of them refer to my husband as "Bhai".
I am a Karachi wali and have lived in 2 diffrent states here in USA. 99% of people called each other Bhabhi/ Bhai Karachi walay and Punjabi. I guess the "more modern lot "calls each other by name or if you know somnone from before marraige like a classmate etc. you wouldn't suddenly start calling him bhai. It would seem awkward.
my husbands karachi friends call me bhabi.Yes one of my friend calls my husband by name but then add that respectful prefex"kehtay/kertay hain"Some karachi ppl even call their kids by Aap.
Who says punjabis r possessive.my husbands female cousins hug him(hmmmm...actually i'm the possessive karachite here ) n their husbands try to shake hands with me(he doesn't object when he def should)i never saw such traditions in my family.but this is just from outside inside they r conservative n not too broadminded.dress modern ho gaaiy hain per soch wohi hai.
