My husband is punjabi pathan he is very proud of his punjabi and pathan background. I am half pathan. He is not pushto speaking but he converses with me in punjabi since he came to the uk. Whereas when we were in pak he only spoke to me in english. But it also gives me a chance to get a better understanding of the punjabi language although it does not always happen we he is speaking it at 100mph. So now i just answer him in seraiki which is my mother tongue so he is gettting the hang of that. : )