Hello,
It is in response to the first post of this thread.
Those who do not believe in Allah have their chance to prove that no God , or no Allah exists.
As pointed out by few other posts, that the burden of proof lies on one who asserts. So i'm not trying here to prove non-existence of God. But i found your questions interesting and i'll give my opinion on them, since they are personal in essence.
How do you console yourself when you are hit by some calamity ?
I behave just like other humans, Initially not believing that such a thing has happened to me, going through stress of denial and what i got so far in life, i accept it, i don't think of a God.
And don't try to forcely make up a bad enemy who had done this to me. Music helps me in bad times, Writing also helps me, which makes a kind of conversation with myself.
What calms you down when you are desperate and things are not going the right way ?
The understanding that being desparate won't change things for me, the better way is look at, what can i do here to change things, I'm not saying that i'm not emotional and on some occasions i don't behave that rationally but that's because i'm just a human.
We the believers believe that Allah has something better planned for us and that is very soothing and calming.
In your stressful times what helps you cope with it ?
What calms me? The company of someone i like, the good memories of good times, The understanding that life in itself is a meaningless thing so why to worry? and why not enjoy? why not be happy and look for positives?
I believe in the moment the present that is passing by, and since i have a profound interest and curiosity for human nature and existence, i do find interesting things even in ridiculous scenarios, I believe many people are interested in the life itself.
If you do not believe on the day of judgment then what is the force which stops you from committing crimes ?
Even when i was a believer, even than it was only me, who could stop myself from commiting crime, and same is the case now.
You can understand this point, since most of the muslims believe that they are pious enough to go directly to heaven, Since they had commited sins, so after getting punishment for there crimes they will finally go to heaven. So when they commit some crime, they think that either God will forgive them, or if not they will stay in hell a little more longer, after all finally they are going to heaven.
What about the frameworks society has imposed on you which society has borrowed from religion ?
We all disagree more or less with some of the rules, Further being grown in a culture, i live the way most of the people are living here, And i'm doing this because this is what i am.
I'm not some french or german. I live in this land, i grown up here, I can understand the significance of the way society works. I disagree on some points on which most of the open minded people agree with me, further culture is never a static thing its dynamic changing all the time, and also culture had capacity to encorporate all kinds of people.
Why do you follow them if you do not believe in the religion from which those rules and laws have been derived ?
I don't beleive that religion is God send thing, its man made so whatever is there in religion is just a polished shape of some auspect of culture, in some specific space and time. You can call it a cultural movement kind of thing, i.e. some people observe somethings in culture and they provide solutions to those from within culture, some that its acceptable to the people living in that culture and don't sound alien, thats what religion is.
So for me i'm following the way i used to live, Thats what i am..