diwana
February 5, 2012, 1:01am
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Re: * proud to b muslim*
If OP truly is comfortable with the decisions her father made, than good for her. What me, you, or any other stranger thinks is irrelevant.
However … when you make the choice to post something so personal and controversial about your life, you best be ready to hear equally contraversial responses. And given the last two pages of this thread..most are going to have less than stellar opinions regarding the actions of OP’s father. Myself included.
But again…it’s her life and her reality…
OP…I hope your mother had a chance to live her life equally as peaceful as you say you have, as a mother myself, I cannot even fathom not knowing where/how/who my children are and will grow up to become
Best of luck to you
Sorry but you could have stopped after finishing first sentence but decided to rub it in.
Th issue was not controversial from the beggining untill some evil minded and jugmental people to take a shot and started throwing stones on this poor OP without even knowing what the detail of the situation was.
**A child does not have to live with a woman who cares ONLY about her life and runs away with a BF after a year of marriage and trying to fool a man by artificially changing the religion just to get married and even after having have kids.
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And Punjabi Kuri, why would you not include ^ this essential piece of information in your original post…especially when you saw the type of responses that were received in the other relevant thread?
Why do some Guppans do this? A few pages and umpteen less than positive posts later decide that they should come back and share some more details? I can understand a teeny tiny minor detail…but when it’s bigger stuff. Somehow that can be more irritating than the ones who post and disappear altogether.
Glad everything “worked” out for both parties though.
OP did not realize she was dealing mean and ugly people online also.
umm, maybe I didn’t make myself clear…it is perfectly ok to give controversial responses…it is perfectly ok to agree with the OP and/or the actions of her father. it is perfectly ok to believe that flying pink bunny rabbits will drop from the sky and rule the earth. to each his own.
my views are expressly that…***mine. ***i don’t think i disparaged or made fun of any opposing posts. i merely stated that as a mother, who has gone through hell and back to bring three innocent souls into this confusing world, i feel for that women, who is somewhere in Germany, most likely mourning the loss of her children..wondering if they are dead or alive..what they look like, what their voices sound like…
on the flip side, who knows, maybe she happily gave up custody…who are we to say? **that **is all i was trying to say…when you come on a public forum and dish out the skeletons in your closet…be prepared for the responses your are going to get. bas.
“Everyone Is Entitled To Their Own Opinion, But Not Their Own Facts”…don’t know who said it, but truer words were never spoken.
in light of recent admissions and truths by OP, i feel the need to add to my post…OP next time you decide to open up a thread, please be sure to paint a clearer picture of your topic. i think it’s reprehensible how you conveniently leave out pertinent information, and then sit back and watch the insults fly and let people get all worked up over nothing.
I f she really cared for her kids, she would not have been running around. OP had no idea that people would judge her post based on mean and preconceived ideas.
Yes.
hmmm…
Your reaction is sooo silly. Why could you or anyone ask simple questions to get the right story before jumping the gun?
Well you’re happy and assuming your mother is happy too it’s a win-win situation.
However, you shouldn’t take away the fact you and your brother were kidnapped by your father. What is wrong is wrong. Sorry.
Do you know what kidnap means? There was someone above who came on high horse and used “Stockholm Syndrome” from his part of ‘his’ body where sun does not shine.
Kidnap is not what should be used here.
Every case is different. In this case, maybe the mom didn’t want to have much to do with the kids. Maybe the father created an environment so oppressive she didn’t want to be a part of it.
I hate to say this but:
You said your mother did not give up her sharabi kababi-pana even after becoming pakki-Muslim.
So she was doing this before becoming a pakki-Muslim. Which means your father met her while she was doing all that sharabi kababi-pana. Which also means he met her in that environment.
He may be a stellar father now but I don’t respect a man who punishes a woman for the same things he does.
Any man or woman for that matter who thinks its alright to deprive their child the right to have TWO loving parents is selfish.
Did you miss the part where she said her father married her after she converted?
punjabi_kuri:
hmm…
when my dad got married married with my mom she changed her religion… she became pakki Muslim… then my dad got marrie with her .. but after marriage she changed.. her routine was same as before.. night clubs.. sharab and all that stuff…
thats why my dad left her.. secong thing we did try to contact with her but she has moved on…
so she is happy with her life and we are happy with our dad…