i had no idea we have started having conversations with potential risthas telling them if we are or are not virgins..
i dont think this is something people ask. im not advocating lying to him, but if he doesnt ask her, i do not see how it could be a good thing to offer up the info.
going around and telling potential risthas could cause her to be a pariah if it leaked into the whole community- which, common, it likely will. if she did something wrong in her past and has changed/repented/wants to lead a different life, then she should keep that to herself.