Property Issues with Newly Weds

[Reha]

@GlacierIce

Reha : calm down, this is not a personal attack on anyone, it really goes to show the mentality desis have.

No my parents wont be living with me, no I don’t expect her to cook, I’m infact a very good cook, no I do not expect her to entertain my friends - I do not like friends over, home is a husband-wife private space - that’s how I like to think of it, no I do not expect her to ‘clean up’ after me, no I do not expect her to clean my house or clean my clothes (I can do these myself). My kids will be my responsibility, their expenses and my wife’s expenses are my responsibility & lastly yes she can work as much as she wants, no I do not expect her to.

I fully am well aware of my responsibility. But I know how to protect myself, accumulating assets on your own is immense hard-work, no I am not going hand it over on a silver platter.

Its not a personal attack at all…reality of it is…property should also be shared and a woman should never feel like she has to have her own in order to feel secure in her relationship.

@GlacierIce

No PCG you are being emotional, I don’t owe her anything for having my kids expect for what she would get for being my wife & as much as you would like to think otherwise I take that very seriously. If I do write a will it will be for my children not for my wife. I would not marry a woman if she has not worked even for a week or has gone to university, I am more likely to help her accumulate her own assets with her own earnings rather than go in their and provide the ready-made ‘halwa’. A wife has many rights Islamic-ally, don’t make one out of your own way of looking at things, most of this thread is based on a hypothetical event if the husband drops dead all of a sudden, that is is not a realistic way of looking at things.

This thread should be more focused on how women can accumulate their own wealth rather than looking for their hubbies to provide them but then again it is gupshup.

Yeah, you do. You owe her a lot more than you can possibly imagine. Its sad you dont understand this but then again…it takes all kinds to make the world go round. Im sure you have your place somewhere in society as well.

@distinctiveflair

I think this needs to be a sticky for all the women out there who destroy their relationship over ownership issues. Seriously, get a job.

And Reha: I’m not married but ive been in an amazing relationship for over 4 years with my best friend. Hes bengali and I am Pakistani. I dont need to have marital proof to be eligible to discuss this topic.

Yeah, you do. These idealistic thoughts change with time. Ive been there and done that myself. All of the things I thought of before marriage and after marriage…worlds different. Your relationship prior to marriage means nothing afterwards…dating is not the real thing people! No matter how close you are to your partner or how well you try to get to know him/her…it doesnt prepare you for the real thing. Girls and guys fool themselves into thinking that playing boyfriend-girlfriend or having a fiance means you’re now a relationship expert! All of these married women have it all wrong, dont they now? Your 4 year relationship doesnt hold water when compared to a 4 year marriage.

Its like me dispensing advise on how to raise kids without having one. Its ridiculous and holds no merit.