How comon is it for the wife’s name to be on any new property bought by the couple?
Like lets say, a property is bought and the guy’s family helped pay for it because he’s not totally on his feet. Have you known of situations where the family doesn’t let the bride’s name go on the property?
How many of you married ladies have your name as a co-owner of your home/condo, etc?
And rent too - how many of you girls renting with your husbands - do they make sure to put your name on the lease?
I ask because it’s so easy to kick a girl out of the home if her name is not on the papers.
If they buy something after marriage, its something "they" are buying and its only logical and prudent to have both names on the paper. Btw, one more thing we dont care much about is WILL. Both husband and wife should do their will and get it registered too.
No issue here, my father-in-law had my husband and I both sign so many papers for a place we're buying. He's very adamant on both of us owning a place(s). He always tells us that we need properties in our names, save money, etc., you know, typical dad stuff. =)
my parents share everything equally… from bills to properties… our house in Ireland is on dad’s name because he’s the one who’s going to be paying the mortgage, and the house in Pakistan is on mom’s name… so yeah I’ll be expecting equal shares in everything when I get married…
girls also need to be understanding and not whine over things like one property costs more than the other , because thats just gay!
I think different states have different laws. I am not sure what happens when girl marries into joint family. However if the hubby is buying home on his own, whether the girl's name is on the deed or not, in case of divorce I think it goes 50/50. As long as property was bought after marriage.
Gosh now I am thinking what happens to girls living in joint family if situation goes bad and she is kicked out. Every woman should have financial sense and have a seperate savings account for herself.
Yeah cuz in a joint setting the house is not in your name. All the more reason to be Allah mian ki gaieen, because you can't assert yourself lest they hate on you and kick you out.
What do girls do in those situations? I've known a girl who was widowed and as she was living in a joint family system there was no assurance from the inlaws that her kids would have a share in any assets. She went back to live with her parents. Which sucks.
Me and my fiancee recently bought our first home in London and although we went halves on the deposit etc the house/mortgage is in his name purely because my credit rating sucked due to credit card abuse in uni days
On the other hand we have a plot in Islamabad where were hoping to build soon and that’s in my name.
I think if we could have done both joint we would have. My credit rating sucks too much to get me onto the mortgage here and I cant be bothered to pay Rs 40,000+ to have his name put on our future home in Islamabad. At least not yet!
I did tell my fiancee once that I didn’t feel like our new home (London) was mine as well purely because I didn’t get to be a part of the buying process like examining the paperwork and signing on the dotted lines but then I slowly got over it because I knew if he could have had my name on it he would have.
What if the guy already owns a house before he gets married, that he paid off partially from his savings, and through parents' help.
he should still add her....make her a part of your life make her a part of the stuff you own too...unless of course you know for a fact that she is a gold digger in which case you dont marry her in the first place
Spock as she will be the mother of your kids why would you not want her name on the papers. If your family kicks her to the curb, the kids go with her. Does that change the picture at all?
How comon is it for the wife's name to be on any new property bought by the couple?
Like lets say, a property is bought and the guy's family helped pay for it because he's not totally on his feet. Have you known of situations where the family doesn't let the bride's name go on the property?
How many of you married ladies have your name as a co-owner of your home/condo, etc?
And rent too - how many of you girls renting with your husbands - do they make sure to put your name on the lease?
I ask because it's so easy to kick a girl out of the home if her name is not on the papers.
Good Question!. Well it is very common as far as i have seen that wife's name goes on with her husband's name on all legal paperwork. I.e, I have my own aparment and insha'allah upon getting married i will include my wife's name just because god forbid if something happens to me then apartment goes to her as well as for her security and part of my sincerity for her. And among my peers and friends who are married have done exactly what i described above.
Now, girls who live in joint system should have something to secure herself just in case. I think that responsibility comes to wife if she is financially able to buy property and put it aside for herself. Or If she is living with her in laws then the husband should be considerate. I.e, buy some property and have his and her name include in it as well. Islam allows women to inherit and owning property..and some desis who don't know..should know that!
^ Yeah thats all lovely but really....in homes where the wife cannot even go out w/o asking for permission, like hell they'll allow her name on their property.
What I've noticed about joint family systems is that sometimes even the husbands name isn't even included let alone the wife.......maybe something should be written in a contract and signed just in case something happens???? Never know what curve balls lifes gonna throw at you.........
nope didn't have any problems...hubby put my name on all the papers right after we got nikahed :)
thankfully i never had to deal with a joint family system, but i wonder what a girl goin into such an arrangement really should expect? i mean, you can't expect FIL, MIL, SIL to actually want to put your name on property papers simply cuz you married the son. i know that now they're "family" but realistically speaking the bahu is just a stranger for the first few months, no? the only way a girl's gonna get her name on property papers is if the husband makes the effort to do it, but if the husband isn't the primary owner or atleast the one maintaining the household with a steady income he may not even have enough authority to put the wife's name on anything. only thing i can say is that anyone marrying a guy who doesn't have his own home or his separate stash of savings should be smart enough to atleast keep her pre-wedding separate savings account and make sure each penny she earns goes into that account that in-laws don't have access to. and try not to have kids until hubby gets his own place or you've confirmed that in-laws are trustworthy, loving, and accepting people who won't kick you out at the last minute.
