Spock
June 5, 2010, 4:11pm
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PyariCgudia:
If you’re not going to let her work and build up her own security, then you really should put her name on the property, regardless of whether you got it before or after your wedding. As long as you put in the money for it. I think the issue becomes more cloudy when it is a place that your parent paid for. Because then, your parents might want to split up the worth among their kids, and then it becomes difficult to put one couple’s name on it.
If you’re letting her work, and she’s building up her own assets, then that’s another story. But then just like you’re not letting her put her name on your assets acquired before marriage, you probably shouldn’t be touching any of her income, as that is what she’ll be relying on after you die.
A girl in a scenario like yours - lets say you pass away. Now she doesn’t have a house to her name, where is she going to go?
It’s not about greed, spock. I think its about security. Greed would be her asking for gold every month, etc. Security is having a house and some assets in your name that God forbid, on a rainy day, you may need to fall back on. Anything can happen in the future and I’ve seen people disabled and left single and they have nothing in their name. It friggin sucks. They go out on wheelchairs alone out there on the street.
Now yes, that’s extreme, but if you don’t take care of securing your future, that’s exactly what happens to you.
As far as Iconoclast’s claim, the Quran asks you to provide for your wife and to provide protection. Woh tho sab ne parha hai. So, if you leave her destitute after you die because you never planned properly or because you were too selfish to put her name on anything, then how are you being a proper husband?
It surprises me that guys like you exist. At least most educated reasonable Pakistani people don’t think like this, but as far as poorer families are concerned, I’m sure there is little attention paid to these matters.
And then women end up at the Eidhi center and we wonder why.
Ever heard of something called a ‘will’? Are you seriously thinking men just die and everyhing they own disapears?
And dont worry, the women in our families dont end up in Eidhi Centers either 