Wow, I feel sorry for your wife. I thought when you get married the ‘I’ turns into ‘we’ and ‘us.’ I didn’t even think of this issue as an issue at all. In fact I always assumed that when you have started your life together, and when you purchase your home together, then you would want both your names on the property. Same way you would want a joint account when you are married. What’s all this rubbish about ‘your’ money and ‘my’ money? Psssht.
And your views are clearly not the norm because my OH agrees with me and he is the most sensible person I know.