Deela…you asked if virginity is important to girls since many virgin girls in Pak marry guys who are not virgin. To answer your question AGAIN…(only to see it go above your head AGAIN)…you have to consider the following points:
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Why the HELL does it matter what girls think about a losing his virginity. Shouldn’t the guy be giving SOLE priority to what Allah thinks in this matter? That’s his biggest mistake. If he gave first and foremost priority to Allah…he wouldn’t be wasting his time asking what women think.
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There is no way to tell if a guy is a virgin. Similarly there is no foolproof way of telling if a girl is a virgin. So even if a guy lied to his wife and tells her he’s virgin…she can’t determine with 100% accuracy if he’s being honest or not.
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Don’t generalize ALL marriages, Deela. You make it sound like you interviewed EVERY single desi couple on the planet. You make it sound like ALL girls willingly marry non-virgin guys. **DID YOU EVER STOP TO THINK **that maybe not all girls question a guy in regards to his virginity during a rishta interview? Similarly not all guys question a girl about her virginity during a rishta interview. So IT IS POSSIBLE that the issue of virginity was mutually never brought up by both parties and they married without discussing it.
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Since there is no medical or blatantly obvious way of determining whether a guy is virgin or not…should a woman just not get married? She could keep rejecting proposals that aren’t virgin but how does she know that the person is being honest?
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Are you a blind follower? OR do you have the courage to be a leader? If everybody jumps off a cliff…does that mean it’s the morally right thing to do? Just because you KNOW of some girls who have married non-virgin men…doesn’t mean that it’s morally okay to go on a humping spree. You’ll be accountable for your actions in the next world.
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There are some women who prefer a virgin guy and will accept nothing less than that. There are some women who won’t be thrilled about a guy’s past but they might overlook it if he’s a good human being overall. It’s one thing if you tell your future wife, “I’m not a virgin because I gave into a weak moment.” **BUT IT IS REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY STUPID **to tell your future wife, **“I purposely committed zina and got my polygamous urges out of my system so I can be a more faithful husband to you.” **Your wife will think you’re retarded.
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You’re depending SO heavily on the justifcation that “Non-virgin men get accepted by the purest girls…therefore I should lose my virginity as well”…so in that case…why are you only limiting this view to zina. There are many guys who also DRINK ALCOHOL and get married to clean girls from back home…so why don’t you start drinking alcohol as well?
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If a girl came to you and asked…“I see guys who are married to non-virgin girls…do you think I should lose my virginity and satisfy my urges before marriage to get it out of my system?” What would you say? You can’t speak on behalf of ALL men, Dheela ji. There ARE men who will not even ask a rishta if she’s virgin. The truth is that you can’t give this girl a clear cut answer. You’d be telling the girl THE SAME POINTS that everyone on this thread has told you.
***** I wouldn’t be surprised if you now say, “Since there’s no fool-proof way to determine if someone is virgin…then I might as well lose my virginity.” Again…that’s upto you. Why seek our permission for something no one can stop you from doing.