Im a fairly new member who needs your genuine views on:
Should a clean man, intending to marry, who however is irresistebly attracted to multiple women, indulge in his desired promiscious needs before marriage and ‘hopefully’ get it out his system, or practice them after marriage?
The man fears if he does not ‘explore’ himself beforehand he may end up compelled so afterwards.
So What should our Chap do.
All suggestions welcome.
Apologies in advance for any offence (unintentional) caused.
Tell him to keep it in his pants, or offer to cut it off for him, alleviating his need to ruin people's lives.
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what does "The man fears if he does not 'explore' himself beforehand he may end up compelled so afterwards." even mean.. i say CALM DOWN would it kill you to wait
Tell the "chap" not to be so "dheela" with his will-power. As TLK said earlier.....are you asking us for permission? Are you hoping that we'll analyze this question and somehow find a justification for it?
So is the chap Muslim? Even if he isn't Muslim, most religions prohibit premarital sex. The question now is........is the chap religious? Is religion something he values......is religion the overal guiding force in his life? If it is.......then much to the chap's dismay.........most everyone who responds to your thread will tell you that he needs to keep his snake....or worm....in its cage.
And how certain is the chap that exercising his desires before marriage will definitely and absolutely quench his thirst for multiple sex partners after marriage???????????
It's human nature.......for us to feel certain about many of our weaknesses and other things.......only to find ourselves to be wrong later on.
It's also possible that the chap get's a taste of sleeping around with multiple partners. He feels he has had enough. Tells his mommy to find him a nice virgin pure untouched bride (which he doesn't deserve). He is happy getting jiggy with wifey for the next few months......few years.........and then he gets bored. Wifey is no longer as exciting........or as slim and young looking......as the other temptations out there who haven't pushed out 2-3 kids. So then he starts doing his "taank jhaan"......you know checking women out here and there................and then next thing you know...........he'll be contemplating whether he should fulfill his polygamous desires and find himself a second wife.
Advise him to fast...........pray regularly..........read Quran..........avoid things that might arouse him............and get married. If this is not enough.........he can jerk off to magazine.........it's the lesser of two evils.
**** I'd also like to add that fulfilling sexual urges should not be the SOLE reason to get married......a marriage is more complex than that.
**** Also, if the chap does decide to commit zina/fornication......safe sex should be a consideration. And so should the intentions of the girl. It's really sick and twisted to decieve some girl......make it seem like you will be committed to her......get inside her pants........and then ignore her. It's best if he finds girls who are on the same......one-night/one-day stand agenda as his. That way there won't be communication issues.
