Re: Promiscuity
@ amir_pindi: Virginity is VERY important to us too..... but a woman probably won't get into that crazy fit of rage that guys get into if they find out their wives were non-virgins followed by talaq, talaq, talaq.
And yeah I'm saying this honestly.... if I found out my husband was not a virgin, I would be upset but won't go crazy. He's the one who committed a sin in the past and will be punished for it after death, so I wont go into a hissy fit over it. I will also NOT ask him details and try to find out how many times did he do it and how many girls were there, etc. etc. I would just rather not know.
Adultery is another matter.... I won't stay with him (even for kids' sake), no question about it.
Men should do the same.... if a woman is not a virgin, its a sin SHE committed and she will be punished later by Allah.... why do YOU go crazy? Doling out her punishment is not up to you.
Also you said **"The virgnity the chap holds so far is not for God, (God does not need anything)." **Wow! How can you say that, when Quran clearly says that sex before marriage is NOT permitted and is a sin.