Seriously dude! Haven't you read any SUFI book? I mean come on man! You can't hold one single desire? Try fasting for 40 days without food or drink! Sex is nothing dude! A woman is nothing. This whole entire planet our bodies and everything that we feel or see will not exist! It will all perish one day. Why do you hold it so near to your heart? As Allah says, "Men are the most reluctant to leave this earth, but little do they know of the paradise." [sic]
Dude, have you forgot ramzan just went by? in which we already have oberved the abstinence your on about.
and its not the case of holding desire. Its the case of nature.
-^ And the chap does not want to become typical molvi detaching from world and work ending up relying on state benefits to be spiritual.
Now back to question.
He is worried that as he has now accepted that a strong sexual nature is a part of him, that after marriage he may be unfurfilled or get ''bored'' with one women like other men and feel the need to makeout additionally.
Maybe man being Polygamous is true - explaining why so many men need to cheat or change partners.
So if this chap knows he also has his multiple attractions for women and feels at one time he may have to 'let loose' what he has held.
Should this be before real marriage or after.
Assuming he is polite and nice by nature and intends to be loyal to his proper wife, will his past matter?
Serious and honest answers please.