'Professional' rishta maasi

Lifestyle Relationships
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Hilarious! You should have asked him if he would mind you working while he looks after the house and cooks and cleans.

You pretty much drew a picture of this indian grocery store here. They don’t even have a partition between their so called parlour and the grocery store!!! In the beginning you would find ladies sitting right behind the counter getting their eyebrows done and facial hair removed :eek: Now I have heard they go to the back of the store. I was in a state of shock when I saw it the first time! Which idiot in the right frame of mind would go through that in front of strangers??? Men and women alike!!! Really pathetic.

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now that is NOT funny :mocking:

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if you think about it, it would be a good idea: Let’s say divorce within 3 years would make u eligible for the guarantee, because getting divorced means that the rishta maasi didn’t do her job well: the person she thought you could live with the rest of your live, turns out to be only good enough for 3 yrs.

of course, one should proportionally discount the 3 years of the total costs cuz at least you got 3 years the pleasure of being married :hehe:

so let’s say

after 1 yr: 90% money back
after 2 yr: 75% money back
after 3 yr: 50% money back

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ayeeeee :bummer:

somebody tape his mouth … i mean his fingers :mad:

that is sooo not funny Nescio :hoonh:

khayr, back to the topic :stuck_out_tongue:

SHINOO and FF ive never had experience with these things and i hope my parents dont have such plans coz man this seems so weird :smiley:

in our family usually if the marriage is arranged then it happens thru relatives or family friends…

in the US i did know of some girls who got arranged marriages, and that was also thru family and friends…usually ppl dont look at rishaty wali maasis with trust…and a lot of times these women r not completely truthful…

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There is a saying in punjabi: "jinna Gur pao gay ona hi mitha hoay ga".
Rishtaa Maasi in not a new phenomenon, it's been a tradition in Punjab.

Throw Rishta Maasi a bone since it's her bread and water. Find a good maasi though, someone who does the homework for you.

Maasi with a rate plan, now that's a novel idea. I wonder how much she charges for a U.S citizen with a six figure income.

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Its weird GJ. that lady charges more for citizens as if she is going to have to give him birth and bring him up first. Aunty ji aapka kya lagay ga?

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:rotfl:

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The sites have inherent issues..one has to be very careful because many people there are not who they say they are.

someone I know has been bitten bigtime once and still was not goignt o give up shaadi.com until her second experience..which is funny

first experience: to make it short, she saw some dude’s profile, they talked, he sent her pics, told her who he was what he did, he just could never make time to meet.. turned out, he was fake, was not what he said he was, pics were not his, all info he gave her was B.S. although he did admit he was playing her.

I told her then to give up these sites or be very cautious… anyways so she goes and sees another profile which she likes, and then she saw the guy’s pic… no.. this gtuy was not using the same pic as the previous guy… but using my picture that he lifted from somewhere. Posted below are copies of my communications with shaadi.com to resolve this. In the end they restricted that account but who knows when he opens another acct and use mine or someone else’s pic.

dont know how many girls think of my face when they curse this guy out cuz thats the face he presented to them :slight_smile: names and specifics have been deleated to protect the innocent..and the guilty :slight_smile:

Date: Mon, 15 Dec 2003 01:02:09 -0600
To: (* deleted for privacy )
Subject: (Call ID-= deleted for privacy *) use of my picture
From: “Shaadi.com Customer Relations” [email protected] Add to Address Book

Shaadi.com Customer Relations has responded to your query.

Click below to view the same:
Login to Shaadi.com Matrimonials(* deleted for privacy *)

Call ID : (* deleted for privacy *)
Category : Member Abuse
Priority : High
Subject : use of my picture
Status : Closed

Trust your query is fully addressed.

Regards,
Shaadi.com Team

NOTE: This is a system mail. Please do not reply to this mail.

Below is a complete communications cycle between myself and shaadi.com. several ppl from this website also helped by writing to the ppl at that site to remove the pic.

Call Details

Priority : High Call ID : removed
Category : Member Abuse Status : Closed
Subject : use of my picture Date : 12 Dec-2003

Call History

You said
12 Dec-2003

Your member ABC in question is using my picture. I just thought I would notify you, someone i know saw it by chance and notified me.

Please remove that picture as soon as possible

Thanks

Shaadi.com said
13 Dec-2003

Dear XYZi,

Thank you for contacting Shaadi.com.

Kindly send us the login/email id and password you are using to log into your account.

This information will help us in assessing and addressing the problem.

Thank you once again for contacting Shaadi.com and we hope to continue assisting you in future.

Sincerely
Saurabh
Shaadi.com Customer Relations

You said
13 Dec-2003

Dear Saurabh

I am not a shaadi.com member. You member ABC has stolen my picture from another website and is using here. Someone I know noticed the picture and alerted me. I have since removed my picture from that website to avoid idiots like this from using it in such ways to fool members on some website.

I understand that several of my friends, and my brothers have emailed you regarding the issue as well. As of now the member ABC is still using my picture on his profile. Do you really think someone using soemone else’s picture on his profile is the type of person you want on your website?

I am unsure what all needs to be done in assessment. I expect that this person would be asked to remove a picture that is clearly not his.

Regards

XYZ

Shaadi.com said
15 Dec-2003

Dear XYZ,

Providing the best service to our Customer is our top-most priority.

We already have initiated action in this regard and are extremely sorry for the inconvenience.

Thank you for contacting Shaadi.com and we hope we can continue to assist you in future.

Sincerely
Saurabh
Shaadi.com Customer Relations

You said
15 Dec-2003

Thank you for your prompt attention to this matter. If i can do anything to help you in this matter please let me know.

Best Regards

XYZ

Shaadi.com said
17 Dec-2003

Dear XYZ,

We are extremely sorry for the inconvenience caused due to the conduct of profile id `ABC’.

Action against the erring member has been taken.

Thank you for contacting Shaadi.com and we hope we can continue to assist you in future.

Sincerely
Priti
Shaadi.com Customer Relations

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on the seond note.. rishtay waali aunty jis

they need to know you well
they need to not have other agendas..trying to hook you up with her firnds son type of deal, when there are better matches around
how well do they know other people

one aunty ji had told me of a girl that was ideal for me..the aunty ji had barely seen me since my early teens, she recommended some girl when i was 25-26, I said no because if she does not know me well, how can she tell me who is right for me, and then how well does she know the girl. anyways teh girl got married to someone else I know, and he has been fairly miserable so i am kinda glad i trusted my instincts rather than aunty ji's recommendation

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I've never heard of anyone having success wiht the Auntys...most of them toss anyone your way and just want the money. There's an aunty in fremont that i've heard horror stories about...

I think the websites...matrimonials.com and others that are more subtle ways to meet like naseeb.com are great.. i know several people who've met thru both sites and a few marriages. ISNA is another great option too,....as are any other social/activist/muslim group you can join that allows you to meet more and more people.. you never know who'll you'll run across.

Even if you're not in a rush, it's important to be "out" there and meeting people so you have more opportunities to mee the right guys and then also...you dn't want to rush into marriage..you could always meet someone and take the time to get to know them. I'll bet withthe aunty's you can't do that.

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Thank you guys, for taking the time to reply :)

Fraudz,
That also happened to me once, someone was 'using' my picture on a site and I contacted the admins an they deleted the profile. Some ppl have no life :-/
I am not going to register at some matrimonial site. My sis is probably the only one who knows me well and I blindly trust her opinion/choice. I don't think I'm going to sign up for that maasi thingie but hey if she meets someone and thinks "hmmmm I should introduce Shino to him" then I'm up for it :-)

amelie,
I agree on the 'being out there' part. I try to meet new ppl all the time but the thing is there aren't many 'eligable' pakistani guys out here on my part of the planet. I really don't think I'll end up getting married here but ooh well... I'll keep on mingling :-p

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[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by ShiNoO: *
I try to meet new ppl all the time but the thing is there aren't many 'eligable' pakistani guys out here on my part of the planet.
[/QUOTE]

There aren't many on my side of the planet either. sigh C'est la vie!

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^

Mehnaz lets move to the UK and try our luck there :p

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I know!! :stuck_out_tongue: … :blush:

Not east London though. As much as I love east London, I didn’t see any eligible guys there.

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^There's more to UK than just London ya know ;)
Let's go on an 'exploring' ahem ahem trip. Whaddya say?

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Who is considered an eligible bachelor. Lets have a bullet point list from both of you.
I used to be one but then I opened a grocery store....and my BA result just came in..I flunked.

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How does dulwich village strike you?

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Frauds, I was referring more to the desi area of Green Street .... and everything in between up to the big old Gerkin! Canary Wharf and Greenwich are quite acceptable though. :p

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Dulwich Village, hmmm is that a fancy shmancy place?

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What is ISNA?