actually while I did not attack you, i did write opposing your views in this thread and I am a dude.
and I moved to US because I want to be an american, I prefer the lifestyle here over anywhere else, and the people here over people anywhere else. I had a choice to not move here and to not live here, I did not have anything to run away from and neither was my family struggling financially, socially or any way. I have more american friends than pakistani or americans of Pakistani origin. I see Pakistan as my cultural roots which will become less and less important or relevant over time, just like while many people in Pakistan claim to be arab descendants, they dont eat arab food, listen to arab music, speak arabic etc. That is okay by me, what is important to me may not be important 3 generations down.
as far as your point about guys marrying girls from Pak, the opposite also happens with girls importing guys from Pakistan. I think the reasons and mindset is what matters, there are many reasons
it can happen due t family pressures, because it is more prevalent in certain communities and seen as the default option, whether it is to get other members of the family immigration, keep wealth within family etc, we have seen ‘honor killings’ in the jahil segments of UK Pakistani segment just for this.
it can happen due to lesser availability- pakistanis in general make their own lives tough. the more specific you go, sunni, ahle hadees, punjabi, arain, i mean you go for subsets of subsets and the available candidates are fewer, and not having infinite time in the world sometimes people do go to the place with higher population so higher probability you will find someone.
it happens because some people want to go above what they will be able to pull here in terms of looks and background so they go looking in Pakistan, the dudes may not be able to compete with dudes better looking, better educated, better earning, better connected here, but when they go to Pak they have the upper hand.
lastly as you noted are the considerations where people say that they go there because the locals here are too westernized or too this or that. in some cases its true, and in some cases it may be a cover for not being able to compete here against other dudes.
one side note..many of the girls coming from pakistan are not for guys who were born and raised here, I am seeing much less of tha, but guys who grew up in Pakistan and moved here for masters etc, in which case they are definitely more compatible with someone from pakistan because they have less in common with someone who grew up here, not just for marriage but even socially.
