my 3 yr old is a pain.he’s so active, hardly ever sits down, he’s always on the go. he’s got no respect for anyone, shouts and screams if he does not get his own way. he’s got no respect for the elders, he argues with everyone. when going to nursery sometimes he doesnt get out the car because i didnt put the tape on or he’s just annoyed about something that happend in the morning. i take him to the city center and he’ll get a toy and by the next day he’s brokren it. me and my husband always end up arguing coz he just doesnt listen, we blame each other for the way he’s behaving. when we tell him not to do something, he just carrys on, he just refuses to listen. i take him to my parents house and its a nightmare, he’ll do everything he’s not supposed to do. I’ve tried time out and now even that doesnt work, i give him a warning that im going to put you in the noughty corner, and he just goes and sits down in the noughty corner himself and then laugh about it. i cant say he’s spoilt because he’s got a sister who’s 5, so he’s not the only one that gets our attention. i just dont know what to do with him anymore.please give me advice.
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awww, are not you little to hard on your little one, especially this ..
are you sure we are still talking about a 3 year old kid?
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yes we are talking about a 3 yr old, he tends to annoy everyone, he'l poke you, laugh in your face, slap you on the arm or leg until you get really annoyed and say something. he's always asking for trouble.he always does the opposite of what your telling him to do.
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yes we are talking about a 3 yr old, he tends to annoy everyone, he'l poke you, laugh in your face, slap you on the arm or leg until you get really annoyed and say something. he's always asking for trouble.he always does the opposite of what your telling him to do.
Patience ... you cannot make a 3 year old do anything. Kids are sensitive they adapt. But make sure you are not lenient with him in places where you have to set some rule or a principle!
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wow that sucks :(
PS Good on you for being honest!
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Good old spanking works for these kind of kids. I am just kidding , yes patience is the key , keep correcting him. Kids change with the passage of time. He will too . But do not stop correcting his behavior.
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dont respond to him no matter how annoying he gets.
Okay this is going to sound REALLLLLYYYY weird because i am a 23 year old adult but...........now that i have some time off for summer from uni and I am back home with my parents and little bro ( with not much to do ) for some reason i LOVE to annoy my family - thinking quite honestly about it i do it for 2 reasons - the reactions are funny and also i think im a bit of an attention seeker from my parents (im making myself sound really bad here haha)
But i will go and poke my mum while she is cooking or latch on to her and hug her constantly while she is watching tv or constantly talk to her about random stuff until she gets bit frazzled then i just say sorry and walk away giggling to myself - it doesnt cause ANY tension in the house its all very light hearted as i am now an adult.
But what i have noticed is when my parents/bro dont respond or are reallly uninterested i will just move on and watch tv quietly like a good little child.
I asked my mum if i was like this as a child and she said yes especially when im bored.
I think he needs to be stimulated with something challangeing and also you need to act very indifferent towards him unless he is vioilent towards you or is threateneing his own safety.
wow im such a baby when i am at home - to think i have been living alone for 5 years hahah
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Boys are like that, believe me he’s a very much normal little boy, I have three.
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*Okay this is going to sound REALLLLLYYYY weird because i am a 23 year old adult but...........now that i have some time off for summer from uni and I am back home with my parents and little bro ( with not much to do ) for some reason i LOVE to annoy my family - thinking quite honestly about it i do it for 2 reasons - the reactions are funny and also i think im a bit of an attention seeker from my parents (im making myself sound really bad here haha)
oh my god! my 3 yr old is exactly like you! always asking for trouble and seeking attention.
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^ oh dear hahah! if it makes you feel any better i did good in school and uni and i entertain everyone with my extrovertedeness!
now i need to make myself feel better that i act like a 3 year old when i am at home with mum
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^ oh dear hahah! if it makes you feel any better i did good in school and uni and i entertain everyone with my extrovertedeness!
now i need to make myself feel better that i act like a 3 year old when i am at home with mum
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thanx alot. u have made me feel alot better. now when ever my son is annoying me i'll always remember you, and that will make me laugh.hahahaha. i dont think i'll get annoyed with him anymore. you have put me at ease.
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I think he just needs some calming activities like coloring, playdoh, crafts...and have you tried enrolling him in some sport. 3 year olds can start swimming.
Other than that, just be patient, inshaAllah he will grow out of it.
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my siblings think i give in to easily thats why he thinks he rules the world, but i dont really, i only give in when i know he'l only kick off and have a tantrum that will last forever. he's not interested in doing anything for more than a few minutes, he gets bored easily. so colouring is out the window.
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heheh anfia i am glad i made you laugh!
I think if you cut off the attention to his annoying you - half of it will go.
You know try challenging him? Set him tasks in a challenging manner, and maybe more adult tasks, i think he is one of these people ( like me) who needs to be constantly stimulated and as an adult i challenge myself a alot with difficult tasks, books, hobbies, sports and activities but as a child maybe he needs more to do with your guiding and direction?
I like nikkis ideas!
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So kids have an attention span of their age multiplied by 5. So a 3 year old has an attention span of 15 minutes.
I teach a 5 year old child who will sit with me for 3 minutes and stop reading his sabaq, look up and roll his eyes, then say "bo-ring." His mom who sits next to us at that point starts giggling. He gets encouraged and does it again. So now I've told his mother not to come in to the masjid with him or stay in the background. Within 3 lessons, I've seen a marked improvement because I'm able to deal with him professionally.
Try to increase his hours at his pre-school, or you and your husband take on the role of an instructor more than a forgiving parent...that is if you really feel this is getting out of hand. Make little changes.
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my siblings think i give in to easily thats why he thinks he rules the world, but i dont really, i only give in when i know he'l only kick off and have a tantrum that will last forever. he's not interested in doing anything for more than a few minutes, he gets bored easily. so colouring is out the window.
Don't give in! When he's being naughty and you feel you need to discpline him, do so and always keep in mind that consistency is key. xx
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longer timeouts, maybe?
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what kind of activities does he do an a daily basis ? He may have too much energy and not enough stimulating activities to do so he makes his own fun by trying to get a reaction out of you.
Enrol his in sports not only will this help burn out some of the energy, and the coaches can help with the not listening as they won't put up with it and can deal with it in a professional manner
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Sounds like he needs some 'controlled' avenues to let of 'steam'. The saying 'boys will be boys' True.
All of my classes have always been boy heavy. This year I have 19 boys and all of them are very very very boyish. They just need to let off steam.
Sports. Disciplined sports like karate and what have you. Even getting him a punching bag and gloves if you cant find local karate classes for 3 year olds.
Does he have any positive reinforcements? When you say you give him time out, how does that work? He gets 1 warning or several warnings? Are you consistent with the time outs?
Sounds like he needs to be kept busy. Make him a big boy helper badge or something and get him to help you with small chores like sorting the spoons or something and make it out that you cannot possible live your life without him helping you sort the spoons out. Lots and lots of positive verbal praise when you 'catch' him being 'good', even if it is something very very small, always remember to praise him for the good things he does. He probably hears the word 'no' a lot. Most kids love the word 'no' the word 'no' translated in child speak is 'Yes, I now know what I must do to get some attention!'
Let him have a tantrum, as long as he's not harming himself, you, others or property, trantrums are just his way of letting out his anger/frustration. I say have a tantrum with him! Show him you get angry and frustrated too.
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Sounds like he needs some 'controlled' avenues to let of 'steam'. The saying 'boys will be boys' True.
All of my classes have always been boy heavy. This year I have 19 boys and all of them are very very very boyish. They just need to let off steam.
Sports. Disciplined sports like karate and what have you. Even getting him a punching bag and gloves if you cant find local karate classes for 3 year olds.
Does he have any positive reinforcements? When you say you give him time out, how does that work? He gets 1 warning or several warnings? Are you consistent with the time outs?
Sounds like he needs to be kept busy. Make him a big boy helper badge or something and get him to help you with small chores like sorting the spoons or something and make it out that you cannot possible live your life without him helping you sort the spoons out. Lots and lots of positive verbal praise when you 'catch' him being 'good', even if it is something very very small, always remember to praise him for the good things he does. He probably hears the word 'no' a lot. Most kids love the word 'no' the word 'no' translated in child speak is 'Yes, I now know what I must do to get some attention!'
Let him have a tantrum, as long as he's not harming himself, you, others or property, trantrums are just his way of letting out his anger/frustration. I say have a tantrum with him! Show him you get angry and frustrated too.
on a daily basis he goes outside to play on the swings, he goes on the computer listen to naats plays games on the computer. then gets bored and starts causing trouble. i give him a warning for time out, and if he continues then another warning and if he still carrys on then naughty corner. when in the naughty corner he screams snd cries runs off, but i still bring him back and he has to do his time. thank you for your advice.