Re: problem with 3 yr old
how much one on one time do you spend with him in a day?
Re: problem with 3 yr old
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how much one on one time do you spend with him in a day?
to be honest not much, im always busy doing something or another, my husband is not well so i have to care for him too. but when i do try to spend some time with him or try to talk to him on one to one basis he just runs away and wants to do his own thing.
Re: problem with 3 yr old
Are you consistent with your consequences? Sometimes parents will tell their child "If you do that one more time...I will put you in time out"....and instead they'll wait until the kid makes the mistake a few more times before applying the consequence. So apply your consequences when you say you will.........your words and actions need to match up. And sometimes you need to change up the consequence. The time-out chair for little kids can be ineffective especially if you're going to make them sit there for a long time.....they have short attention spans and will get antsy pretty soon. If the the time-out corner is not working.....then try another consequences such as taking away a privilege....for example you won't take him to the park, or get him a toy that he wants, etc.
When he DOES behave well....praise him...even in front of others. This can motivate him to continue the good behavior. You can reward him with a treat, but if you do that too often....it reduces the value of the desired behavior. And praise is an intrinsic reward that can boost self-esteem. Another strategy you can try is complimenting your older child for positive behavior.....and when your son notices the positive attention that she's getting....he may try to copy your eldest.
When you know that you are going to go places (be it your parents' home, or the mall, the grocery store, etc)......I think it would be a good idea to discuss rules/expectations before hand. He's only 3, so you want to keep it simple. Also, model/demonstrate examples and even non-examples of good behavior.
You can also try telling your son that you will not respond to him unless he speaks politely (using words such as please, etc)......and then you need to stick to this consequence...don't respond to him until he shows you what you're looking for. If he hits or screams.......tell him that "you need to use your words" or you can't help him. Then don't respond to him.....and when he sees that.....hopefully he'll try to calm himself down a bit.