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Congrats....all the best. You are a great example for Pakistani guys. We need more like you. :)
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Congratulations!! May your future together be filled with happiness.
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I wish there were more men in our community like you. You are a blessing.
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^ Yep, it takes a REAL man to stand up to his family and marry a divorced lady with a child from her previous marriage. A blessing indeed.
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I wish there were more men in our community like you. You are a blessing.
WTH is with this and specifically your mentality of Pakistani man bashing? My own brother married a revert with two children, not even an issue
Funny thing is you elitists characterize anyone with a beard as a Mulla when in fact some of the least jdugemental are the most fundamentalist people you will meet. Grow up
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Was just wondering if all the unmarried guys will marry divorced women then what will happen to the unmarried girls out there, why don't they just find someone like them I mean divorced ?
haha you are funny.
I agree with you. But i wish you get married with some never married person and get divorced and than someone ask you this question. Its not about being divorced or single why you people dont get a person is a person mo matter what her or his status is?
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Btw we JUST got married and i am so happy. She is an amazing woman. I wake up and she gets everything ready for me. Push me talk and see my parents often. And her daughter, now happens to be my step daughter calls me her father.
My wife's ex called me and threatening to take his daughter away. My wife is so devestated. And my sister said something to my wife and she cried. Which pissed me off. Me and sis fought yesterday. We were never like this. My sis is kind of person that if she is angry at something she remains angry for long time and avoid confrontation. But i did confronted yer yesterday. argh it is getting me.
Hassan.
First of all congrats...and i am happy you took a stand.
I am my self divorced (no kids) from my first marriage and had a terrible relationship afterwards. Then I met this guy who is my husband and He had changed my life. I am the happiest woman on earth. We married without his or my parents but with my parents permission and his mother never liked me. He didnt care as we both are in UAE and families are back in Pak. The best solution to this situation is if you can afford keeping your wife separate from your family. Be it in same home but where they wont interact with each other much. This "Jealousy" and "ego" is built in in mothers and sis in law in pak. They probably would have agreed but doesnt mean they are happy with your relationship and in 90% cases it would create a mess and your life would be in hell if you dont take these things in consideration. I am sorry if i sound rude but I have been through same and I can feel how your wife would feel every time when there would be a fight. Every time she would feel as if shes gonna lose you or an other shelter.
Its such a big insecurity and it takes a lot of love, care and support to get rid of this insecurity. May God bless You more and give you a more happy life ahead. I wish there were more men like You and my husband in Paki society.
P:S to all those sister who think divorces are being unfair and stealing their right by marrying single men, plz give it a thought that you might find a lot of men single and who so ever but we have limited choice to find right man and we dont steal anybody's right, we just take our right of being with someone who respects us and gives us shelter and appreciated us being a woman. May you never be in this situation when you are called a "Divorcee" and not a "Woman"
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The practice of marrying divorced women is not a norm. OP clearly has gone through a lot of stigma as has his new wifey. So please refrain from insulting me or labeling me as "elite". It's a fact. Desis wholeheartedly discriminate against divorcees. There are exceptions and they really are angels.
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Also as marrying a non Pakistani is so fashionable amongst guys - desi boys give each other props for marrying non Pakistani girls. So marrying a revert even with kids, I'd say it would have been harder for him to marry a divorced woman from our own community. A divorcee who use to not be Muslim is probably given a lot of slack since we get really proud when we harness a non Muslim into Islam, and attribute her divorce and kids as a part of her prior life. Easily forgivable. But do we forgive our own desi divorced women so easily? I think not as obvious by the very low remarriage rate with these women.
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woah-does that really happen? asking for the bedsheets?! 
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I'm really sorry to say this, but your mom and sister happen to fall in that category of women who have practically ruined our society. Any girl who is older than 22, previously married/engaged/spoken for etc. is unfit for marrying their perfect little boy.
Tell them to fear Allah and think differently.
Totally agreed!!!