Re: Problem marrying a girl who was divorced…
Hassan.
First of all congrats…and i am happy you took a stand.
I am my self divorced (no kids) from my first marriage and had a terrible relationship afterwards. Then I met this guy who is my husband and He had changed my life. I am the happiest woman on earth. We married without his or my parents but with my parents permission and his mother never liked me. He didnt care as we both are in UAE and families are back in Pak. The best solution to this situation is if you can afford keeping your wife separate from your family. Be it in same home but where they wont interact with each other much. This “Jealousy” and “ego” is built in in mothers and sis in law in pak. They probably would have agreed but doesnt mean they are happy with your relationship and in 90% cases it would create a mess and your life would be in hell if you dont take these things in consideration. I am sorry if i sound rude but I have been through same and I can feel how your wife would feel every time when there would be a fight. Every time she would feel as if shes gonna lose you or an other shelter.
Its such a big insecurity and it takes a lot of love, care and support to get rid of this insecurity. May God bless You more and give you a more happy life ahead. I wish there were more men like You and my husband in Paki society.
P:S to all those sister who think divorces are being unfair and stealing their right by marrying single men, plz give it a thought that you might find a lot of men single and who so ever but we have limited choice to find right man and we dont steal anybody’s right, we just take our right of being with someone who respects us and gives us shelter and appreciated us being a woman. May you never be in this situation when you are called a “Divorcee” and not a “Woman”