Re: Problem marrying a girl who was divorced…
I used to think the same way but followings were the reasoning that made me think differently
- You dont pick and choose your parents and relatives, except for marriage every other relationship is gift to you from Allah SWT.
- if Allah SWT wants you to be with someone then no power can stop it happening but if he dont want you to be with someone then nothing will make it happen.
- life is given to you once, and almost everyone live it the way they want it but where is the challenge in there? if you really want to enjoy it, live it for others. i am not saying it requires you to make everyone happy, but keep your parents separate from others. they deserve better. they put their time, efforts, money, prayers on you.
- life is short, so learn to make the best out of everything. but if you cant then learn to blindly trust Allah SWT.
- It is possible for Allah SWT to create someone with all the things you want in your spouse and even more, but only if Allah SWT wants it. He can stop the time for anyone, and anywhere. (If you read As-Hab-e-Qaaf’s waqiah you can see that Allah SWT stopped the time for them)
ps. it is not that i cant feel what original thread starter is going through. I can in fact i was once in a similar situation. I dont remember precise details but i remember that it came to through a very good friend of mine and she even brought him to meet me, even though i said no to her. I think he was a canadian doc but he was a divorcee + kid. anyways point is, move on and trust Allah SWT or rot in your desires, your choice!