Problem between fiance & me ~ Am I being unfair?

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@chocolatefiend

**CM I told him that I didn’t want him to invite his family that live a long drive away as he rarely see’s them and his parents don’t get to speak to them often **and the reason being that this is just the engagement - he can invite them to the nikah. Also because my parents would be paying and because I wanted to keep the engagement as small as possible.

1. I made list in my head.
2. I had an estimated 50 people on my side (around 40 family members and 10 of my closest friends)
   3. I had planed the engagement for 100 people as I mentioned in my original post - thus giving him a remaining 50 places to fill.
   Now does that answer your question?

@CM

If someone gets what I am trying to point out here, please explain it to Choco in Girl lingo or whatever.

Because I feel like Major Tom and something is wrong.

Chocofiend, I think what CM is trying to get at is… the engagement involves BOTH of you. You shouldn’t have made the guest list for your fiance. He makes his own guest list, you make yours, then you can talk about it. Instead, you told your fiance that you don’t want him to invite his relatives who live 5 hours away

Invitations/guest lists for engagements, shaadis, and valimas can often lead to problems. It’s difficult especially when you marry a guy or girl who has large extended families… that’s not their fault. And remember, just like how you’re saying your parents will be paying for the engagement party… your fiance’s side (I’m guessing) will be responsible for the valima… but he’ll be less likely to tell you to not invite your extended familes since you don’t have as many. The advantage is to you for all these celebrations.