Your list did not include hotness. Yes he would be a keeper; no education means he hasn’t been institutionally brainwashed. No home means we can travel about and not get caught up in the materialistic lifestyle. No self-esteem means he’ll be ever so grateful for my loving him.
Do you see now how these ‘traits’ can be interpreted differently? Generic is rarely good.
I don’t know about the others, but I am single because I have a secret double life; as a Transformer.
LMAO! You are too awesome for words. sigh If only you were infact a chich.
So who was your favorite? I was always an Optimus Prime fan. Along with Hound. I do not disagree that generic is rarely good. But when making a broad generalization about a subset one has to take the lowest common denominator. Now in this case these characteristics would have to be vague and generic so they applied to all individuals. If i wishes to be specific I would have placed caveats which each quality.
Oh yes. No education means no institutional brainwashing? That was weak even for a hippy such as yourself.
Three things I could and have given up off ur list are:
Educated - my other half left school at 16 and went straight into working for his family.. Being honest if it was an arranged marriage or I hadn’t had the chance to get to know him over several years I would have run a mile. He was making 7 figures tho of course with the bad economy that could have all gone down the drain (and still could) and he would have no ‘back up’..
Good family - not really that bothered about his family, all that matters to me is him and his personality, traits etc. His parents are divorced and there have been a few scandals involving his siblings (note: I don’t consider divorce a scandal by any stretch, we are totally fine with that in my family, I mean much more serious things)
Hell your dog/cat/parrot loves him - Would be an added bonus if my dog liked him but not a requirement.. he’d soon come round
My situation is a bit different cos I’m not marrying a desi and it’s a love marriage.. generally I think those who go for love are less fussy anyway, we tend to want that main thing - the spark (the chemistry and usually also the physical attraction)- and whatever follows is a plus..
There are couples who have been married for years and haven’t conceived a child. It’s in Allah’s hands…whenever it’s meant to be. Pray and be patient and do your best…inshaAllah things will fall into place.