Well how would you know 5, 6, and actually many of the other points until you actually married him? So really, you can never have a "perfect" situation. Even the physical attraction thing can change...well actually I have no experience in the area of arranged marriages so I can't say.
Yet....you are not physically attracted to him. At all. On any level. No way no how. No possibility of it in the future even if he gets plastic surgery.
Yet....you are not physically attracted to him. At all. On any level. No way no how. No possibility of it in the future even if he gets plastic surgery.
Is that a marriage proposal you would accept?
But, more important than any of those, does he wear socks with sandals - that's a deal breaker you know.
Yet....you are not physically attracted to him. At all. On any level. No way no how. No possibility of it in the future even if he gets plastic surgery.
Is that a marriage proposal you would accept?
is the bold part mutual meaning does he feel respect care about the girl's parents too. is sense of humor included? he's smart but is he arrogant about it? are his parents mean and arrogant or totally down to earth. all these other factors are important. if all these other things are ok and as long as he respects and loves the girl, great, i think the mutual love can happen, why not :p
Yet....you are not physically attracted to him. At all. On any level. No way no how. No possibility of it in the future even if he gets plastic surgery.
Is that a marriage proposal you would accept?
If there is chemistry and mutual interests there, a not so settled guy (with ambitions), an ok-looking guy would do. If there is chemistry there, how one looks would dissolve away in the attraction created by mutual interests.
Okay perfect. You ladies shall form the sample group. A microcosm if you will of the general guppan psyche. Now take the same list and we amend it.
Handsome
Liberal
Good family
Your parents love him
Hell your dog/cat/parrot loves him
Independent
Smart
No previous hang ups regarding women or feminism
But he is not educated and in that regard not well settled. Lets say he is a high school drop out? A hippy. He spends his time being the struggling artist with no real foundations or responsibilities, no steady income. No place of his own and the prospects of him getting a 9 to 5 job are zero.
Yet....you are not physically attracted to her. At all. On any level. No way no how. No possibility of it in the future even if she gets plastic surgery.