I saw a thread here about marrying someone with no post secondary education. So I have a scenario
[Pretend to be a woman here] If you were marrying someone from a different country and he was coming to the country you reside in. Pretend he wasn’t bringing money along from back-home to start you guys off. Would you have a problem supporting him and yourself financially by working until he found himself a stable job, or do you think it’s his duty to take care of you right after marriage and he should do so by any means possible?
I dont mind supporting him for a while while he lloks for a job and settles down.. not a problem at all. but he needs an education. I worked my ass off to get myself through school, i will not be doing the same for someone else.
and then does he not have the right to say the same "I worked my ass off to get myself through school and I will not doing the same to educate/support my wife?"
No, but if its an arranged marriage, why not choose someone whose either qualified enough... Why scoop the bottom of the barrel (no disrespect intended to anyone)... Why make the best years of your life a constant struggle?
No, but if its an arranged marriage, why not choose someone whose either qualified enough... Why scoop the bottom of the barrel (no disrespect intended to anyone)... Why make the best years of your life a constant struggle?
Agreed.
If it came to that, I would support him until he was able to find a job.
and then does he not have the right to say the same "I worked my ass off to get myself through school and I will not doing the same to educate/support my wife?"
he would not need to educate me because Im done with school...thats my point. i went to school, and not by it being all paid for me while I got to study, not have to work and rely on my parents. I made a lot of sacrifices, work the whole time i was in school just to put myself through school (expensive tuition fees), took internships instead of vacations, stayed in to study on weekends instead of going out. Now i have a decent job and i want to be able to enjoy it (within my means) and be with someone at the same level as me. Im not saying he has to be rich (im not)...but to put someone through school all over again for a few years would be too much at this point. In terms of supporting me, i plan to work (unless i have kids and are on maternity leave or something).
If I was pretending to be a woman I would be worrying too much about my MIL and what she will say to me so I can post it on GS right away than worry about my husband and his plans!!
No, but if its an arranged marriage, why not choose someone whose either qualified enough... Why scoop the bottom of the barrel (no disrespect intended to anyone)... Why make the best years of your life a constant struggle?
Totally agree. There are so many educated men out there, why the desperation?
No, but if its an arranged marriage, why not choose someone whose either qualified enough... Why scoop the bottom of the barrel (no disrespect intended to anyone)... Why make the best years of your life a constant struggle?
My husband will be supporting me financially during the next 4 years of my grad school since I won't be working and he doesn't want me to pull out loans, but if our roles had been switched, I'd have been perfectly okay with it as well. If he needs some time to get on his feet and I already have a good job/ make enough to support us both meanwhile then I'll help him out and reap in the interest accrued when he does find a job ;)
Plus I always tell him, What's mine is only mine and what's his is mine as well. So sooner or later, it'll be all mine anyway lol.
