Pressure to have kids

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Re: Pressure to have kids

@Thornewood9

Unfortunately people especially south asians can be really insensitive when it comes to children. Its just rude behaviour. They shouldn’t be asking personal questions like that but unfortunately they all do. Best thing to do is just nod and say inshallah. No need to explain anything or elaborate further. I got it in my first year if marriage too. Unfortunately when I did get pregnant it ended in miscarriage and people were even more rude and insensitive then. All you can do is ignore them. My oldest sister has been married six years and has no children yet and people have been very rude and insensitive to her too. It’s no ones business how you live your life and islamically its just bad manners to be asking a couple these kind of questions at all. I know it can get you down but don’t feel pressured. Having a baby is a big responsibility. Enjoy married life first then when you are both comfortable and ready then inshallah go for it. Just ignore people. I’ve learnt that being married actually thickens your skin lol and its a good thing too.

i can so understand this, my sister too got miscarriage and then preferred to wait and had a child after six years of marriage and the nasty questions were thrown like when will she have a baby(as if she has the knowledge of matters of ALLAH), why is she not having a baby, what are the problems, is she seeing a doctor, what does doctor say etc etc).