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I feel sorry for her husband..
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i always wondered why she had so many kids.
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Look, I am not asking anything wrong here so please dont feel insulted 
Did you gain weight by any chance? I once made the mistake of asking a married girl if she was pregnant. She just gained weight. Anyway it wasnt a good day to talk to friends 
And as for the people pushing you, I guess there is not much you can do is there?
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^:rotfl: haha, no i haven’t gained weight.
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The whole issue of when to have a baby is completely between you and your husband. My advice would be not to discuss ANYTHING with aunties (i.e. like you guys want to wait until financially stable, etc.). When they ask me if I'm preggers yet, I just smile and say no. If you tell them a reason, they will gossip on it, and offer you advice regardless of whether you asked for it or not. And its such a personal issue anyway, that I think its better left between the husband and wife.
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I was going to say the same thing as Creme. You dont have to explain yourself to anyone except your husband. Next time someone wants to know when you will be having a child, just smile and say when Allah wills.
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hmm.... thats a good idea
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Don't let it bother you. Is she going to be there helping you take care of the baby when you're feeling overwhelmed with the responsibility?
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^^So true!
Ramsha, next time the aunties ask, you could tell them, 'Thanks so much for asking...Aunty, will you be my babysitter when I do have a baby?'
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^ haha
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since the night before my wedding i've been dealing with the same thing. I've just started ignoring it. I told my mother that I am not a baby-factory, there's more to me, and it's really beginning to bother me, so she doesn't say it as much.
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Well thats good enough reasons to give. If people can't understand that then I guess theres very little else that can be done but to ignore them and to repeat it again and again hoping that it will sink in.
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Ramsha, next time the aunties ask, you could tell them, 'Thanks so much for asking...Aunty, will you be my babysitter when I do have a baby?'
No no, babysitter is not a fit punishment for such a nosy person. Ask them if they're willing to pay for all the diapers, bottles, toys, pacifiers, etc. And ask them if they'd like to come over and clean the diapers as well.
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i dont know why sum1 wud not want to have a kid, i mean ur financial well-off or close to it. i love kids, i wanna have a few.
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Ignoring them is the bst soloution i guess otherwise you will get more depressed........and so on
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L:rotfl:L at the baby-factory…i have to try that one 
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lolzzzzzzzzz you r right
Ramsha
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Juat keep in mind how the Generation is Dyin in Germany and what efforts are the German ovt doing to increase the Birth ratio. I am feeling soory for those who are giving options of baby sitting and dippers and so on.... its your Child.... is you child is important to you or your money that you will spend on his / her carings. The Money is the main factor here in Germany too that is crushing their thoughts to have a baby. Just for info who dont know.... The worlds most powerful social system is from Germany or you can say the best one. But its the Social system not the spiritual system. If you want to be Scocialist and want to fit for the parties and bla bla then its up to you... if you care of having atleast 32 kids in your life and feel two spirits in your hands...., love to grow them you will definatly, in any day of your life, feel it that what a blessing these KIDS are. ONLY if you teach them the real Isalmic values of Basic life. So what the German are doing for childern is that when a child come to this world from the first day he get around 153 Euro for his dippers and stuff per month. As German say that is not enough for them. Now they have also put a Parents allounce along with the child allounce. You can say like Parents will be paid to bring up the child. Its olny due to that they dont like children as due to their own living system. Yah some of them do. These allounces are just a 0.58% of their whole social system. There is much more that each citizen is paid monthly. But some of GS users who will be reading this will say now...." See.... See.... who pay us? We work and we earn and then we spend" I will just like to say Germans earn to spend on material and they have no Idea to get good deeds with them. We earn to spend in the Path of Allah even if we spend in on our children in right way.
PS: ppl dont quote my POST for political talk about Islam i will not respond to them.
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^^aaho, the original post was about having PRESSURE to have kids by nosy aunties. No one here is saying to NOT to have kids because they take away your wealth. Quite the contrary, children are a blessing from Allah (swt). I think the issue here is OTHER people getting involved in an issue that is a very private matter between husband and wife.
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And my mamoon came to talk to me last summer, "You're not doing family planning, are you?" I was horrified that I would have to talk about this with him.
But I don't really mind when close family and friends ask. It's more the people who barely know you and are like, "Why aren't you having babies yet?" I mean how do they know we're not trying? How do they know there is not a health issue? What the heck is wrong with them that they feel comfortable bringing up such a sensitive topic?