Re: Present incriminating evidence
Maybe I am over thinking this but this girl is probably the BEST thing that could happen to a guy like this. Maybe she could turn him around? Help him regain his faith?
I guess that should be her decision - not ours. Right?
NO, PLEASE don't think that way. Many girls have this notion that they can "change" a guy, and that's naive thinking. A person will change when he or she wants to change.
My dad didn't stop smoking when he married my mom. And he heard many lectures from her about it, I'm sure. My dad didn't stop smoking after I (his first child) was born. He didn't stop smoking after my brother was born the following year. And he didn't stop smoking after my sister, the youngest, was born.
But I remember one evening, we were all in the car. And while driving my mom told him to stop smoking and think of the kids. And HE STOPPED. He never quit before....but that day he decided to stop, and he quit for good. Bottom line.......people change when they want to change.
An aunti I know....her husband didn't stop doing drugs right after marriage. He made life miserable for his wife and 4 kids for years.
Please don't use such reasoning as justification of not telling someone the truth. There is no 100% guarantee that a wife can change her husband. Do the right thing. Even in the Quran, Allah Himself says that He won't change a person's condition unless they change themselves.
Sometimes people miss out on information even while doing an investigation. Even a detective might not have access to important information. ** But that does not mean that the information should not be revealed just because a person hasn't "stumbled" upon it yet. ** Think about this. Do, the right thing.