prepping for pregnancy

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^ i can't help it! i'm a planner... i gotta have all my ducks lined up before i do ANYthing! :/

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just went and got poked, prodded and examined at the doc's, and i've got the green light! yay!

she said i only need at least three months of folic acid in my system before we go at it (1mg per day), and even though i'm going to continue taking 2 gummie vitamins a day, i don't really need to.

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:hug:

runs to prepare a name list

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yay!

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iv been trying to get pregnant for 6 months now & now only am i obsessed but as the months go by im getting more and more upset about it! i dont understand why im not getting pregnant..i'm starting to get worried, please pray for me!

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sgc.. its good to be a planner... im a very very very organised person who plans my every move.

one area my expertise did not help in was pregnancy and delivery and now, childcare.

thankfully my pregnancy was great.. but delivery was brutal and something that is outta ure hands.

raising aariz is rocket science in itself where again, there is no room for my planning.

i would say go with the flow. cuz i remember getting depressed when things just werent going as planned... dont have ure heart set on anything taht is not in ure hands

but otherwise knock ureself out baby shoppping :D

all the best!

Na joru hai na salaa hai
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You're in my prayers.

InshAllah it will happen when it is right for you and your husband. If you are under 35, they usually ask you to try for a year, then you can see a specialist to help out and check out both partners. If you are over 35 or have known issues (like irregular cycles or something) it's 6 months.

InshAllah you won't need any extra help, but there is nothing wrong if you do. Don't be afraid of it.

Qadam sonch ker rahknaa
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aw thank you sahar, im 25, im anaemic but thats it, i take iron tablets and the preconception pregnacare tablets, iv never been on the pill, preriods are (alhamdulilah) regular.

every month i make myself believe im pregnant until i come on- then i cry lol its getting ridiculous & i hate talking to people because some get annoyed and say 'stop thinking about it' but its impossible not to.

remember me in your duas! good luck to scg & the others who are trying to conceive xx

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ugh, baby making sex is the WORST!

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^ Why the sound of aggravation… men only have one job! Women do the rest :snooty:

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aishii, my doc said it takes the average couple 6-12 months to conceive... so forget all those stories of people who were successful on the first try- that's not the norm! chances are, all is well- after all, you really only get the opportunity once a month, right? so you've only tried 6 times if you look at it that way, and 6 times is nothing! hang in there and don't get stressed about it- its only going to make it harder. hug
making babies should be fun and relaxing, not a chore. don't treat it like that, relax, and iA it'll happen when its meant to! :)

Lipton ki Chae, Peak Freans ke Biscuits
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khawa, yup, my doctor told me the same thing- she was like, you can be organised as far as you think you need to be, but your baby is going to come when your baby's ready to-- so don't worry about it and don't try planning so much of it.

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til then...have fun buying shoes/bags/makeup/eating out/etc. cz priorities will change once u even get pregnant.

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so you are also in the list....... Inshallah everything will be fine. i am also trying from last 1 year and every time i just makeup my mind that this time Allah will bless me but......:(

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So true! Sometimes I wonder how people ever reproduce at all! It's only once a month (or so) that an egg is released, and it is only viable for 12-24 hours. So if you're lucky you'll have some sperm around in that tiny window to fertilize the egg before it disintegrates. And then apparently something like 70% of fertilized eggs are not viable and end up in what's called a "chemical pregnancy," nature's way of making sure only healthy offspring are produced. And then a healthy fertilized egg needs to be able to attach to your uterus so that you can officially be pregnant.

And all of that is if everything is working in a "textbook" manner for both partners. Still, it's amazing because not only do people reproduce, so do the ones with some issues! InshAllah we'll each find our way to the right methods and timings for successful pregnancies and children.

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also, aishii, if you really want to be sure, just go for it every day for the entire week leading up to your ovulation so you have a supply of sperm in waiting- remember sperm can live up to 5 days inside you. my doc also said it helps to remain lying down for 30 minutes afterwards and possibly propping up your bum with a pillow- it helps the sperm to fight gravity and swim towards the egg. sounds funny, but it makes sense when you think about it! haha

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aw thank you so much people! thing is i live with my in laws so its hard to 'it' anytime we want (esp as my bedrooms downstairs) so after doing 'it' i literally have to jump up & get back to the family (bcos they start wondering where i am lol) but we've really been trying to the point that im getting sick of trying... i was so sure that i was pregnant this month (i was even imagining having all the symptoms) untill i came on yesterday :(

i know its bad to obsess but i find it so hard not to, everyone i know is pregnant! and im really happy for them but i inside theres this sadness that seems to be growing as the months go by.. worst thing is both families keep asking if theres any news.

anyway im sorry for moaning, inshallah it will happen when its meant to be, my husbands taking me to paris this month so im hoping it should relax us & hopefully have a holiday conceived baby,

thanks for the advice and tips- iv made a mental note of them
Dua-G hang in there inshallah our time will come :)

scg- are you pregnant or in the trying process? sorry im a bit confused! xx

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Aishii Darling, relax...it will happen when Allah wants it to happen and if its not happening right now then there must be a very good reason..i really believe in this..maybe if Allah gives a child now then maybe the child wont be well (Allah reham kare) or you may have issues later....so the point im trying to make is, that when Allah wants to give you a healthy happy child..he will inshallah....just trust him...this time will pass too!!

You got married at same time as me....and its not even been a year now....i think u shud just relax and 'njoy' and trust me when u dont think abt it...it may even happen...just have 'fun'.....im not thinking abt kids yet...but inshallah even when i am trying, i wont tell my relatives coz they then ask a million questions ke abhi tak kuch hua kyun nai....u shud just say that ur not trying yet and will try next year or sumfin...and then this way u have 6 months to keep trying and inshallah Allah will bless u with a beautiful healthy child very soon and inshallah you will conceive before next year....keep faith in Allah..

Good luck
xxx

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salaam tabu!

its been a long time, thanks, i no i dont no y im stressing so much, i guess its cos i want to make sure everything is ok with us two, thats my only concern, inshallah when the times right it will happen, hope your ok! x

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If you really are feeling frustrated and feel like you need to do something then make sure to consider the following:

  • Get and read the book Taking Charge of your Fertility mentioned earlier in this thread.
  • Get an ovulation kit -- or invest in the Clearblue Fertility Monitor. I've heard a lot of good things about it. A lot of women ovulate much earlier or later than they realize. You can time intercourse better, especially for those of you with less freedom/flexibility.
  • Go to a doctor and have BOTH partners checked out. About 40% of fertility issues arise from females, and about 40% arise from males. The other 20% are unknown.
  • If you've been trying for a long time, feel no one around you understands your struggles, and need to talk to people who do, know that there are many online communities (like GS, but about fertility) with informed and supportive people that you may find helpful.
  • Consider accupuncture.
  • Some women benefit from a supplement called "Fertility Blend." It's pretty much vitamins, herbs and minerals to enhance fertility, but DO NOT use it without consulting a doctor, eventhough you can get it without a prescription.

aishii -- Have a great time in Paris! I've been trying to convince my hubby to take me this summer, but I don't think our vacation days will work out. Perhaps you will be having a French-themed baby shower in a few months. :D