I do the same thing and really want to give them the hotel experience ..as I live that pampering myself. Problem is when you are taken for granted. Word gets around and people expect that royal treatment. That’s fine if people would reciprocate when you go to their place. I have found that most people don’t bother and are very laid back…that’s definitely a bit of a let down. With time I have lowered the standards and stopped with going overboard. You do get bitter when the other person doesn’t feel obliged to o overboard .