what if the man is caught cheating or wants to leave his wife for another woman. in that case, shouldn't the wife get compensated?
I always thought, the judge supports the spouse that has been cheated on or the one whos been treated badly. I was under the assumption that women who end up getting alot in divorce settlements are those whos husbands had mistresses and were cheating.
No. That's not the reason behind women getting large settlements.
On a side note, clauses are a thing of beauty when it comes to contracts. One can easily include a infidelity clause within a prenup.
If a person makes that much then even if a prenup is established for 250,000 bucks it is worth it ... Or to make it easier for longevity purposes ... 50, 000 bucks, then 1% of the total assets per year of marriage.
so if a person makes 800 k say ... Per year and after 10 years is worth may be 5 million after expenditures then 500k results as 10% of that total.
what if the man is caught cheating or wants to leave his wife for another woman. in that case, shouldn't the wife get compensated?
I always thought, the judge supports the spouse that has been cheated on or the one whos been treated badly. I was under the assumption that women who end up getting alot in divorce settlements are those whos husbands had mistresses and were cheating.
Some people make that a clause in the pre-nup. It all depends how you word the agreement and what the terms of the marriage dissolving are. Some couples do have clauses for adultery in there where the other spouse would be compensated. You just need a damn good lawyer to write a good pre-nup agreement.
Isn’t the Haq Mehr the woman’s prenup? As a girl, if I was making that much money, I’d have asked my husband to sign one but if he’d have asked me if his situation was such, I don’t know how I would’ve felt! I’m mature enough to know marriages aren’t a Disney/Bollywood story but at the same time, I’d like to think some inherent trust goes into choosing a spouse. I don’t know if there’s a firm right or wrong answer but it’s always wise to be sensible. My husband and I talked at length about the Haq Mehr and how we’d navigate if we it ever came to the big D.
It really is becoming a very scary world, my nephew in LA is getting married with his previous class mate my sis was mentioning that she is scared the girl maybe a gold digger but his fiance is a senior manager making 130k a yr. Normally gold diggers are like waitresses n stuff. Mind you that he is a high net worth guy. Both are in 30s and mature. I hope they stay blessed.
I have a prenup in place and live in a state consistently ranked as the craziest w.r.t. its divorce laws.
You don’t have to be making a lot of money to consider a prenup. My prenup was done on the advice of a family friend. My wife would have had divorced me by now otherwise. Legal system punishes wealthier of the two partners more, which often means men. Divorce is nasty business and lawyers will do anything to get more and more for their clients. Lawyers have a ton of tricks to get a husband to hit his wife/child or encourage an affair just before filing for divorce in order to get the prenup declared null and void.
Women will usually be against prenup but men should keep the latest divorce stats in mind. In US 69% of divorces are initiated by women and 90% of those women are college educated.
Hah, I stuck with my resolution. Doing things Islamically and keeping our finances separate.
I actually have realised pre nups are necessary for both parties and both parties need to bring in their own lawyers to draft the proposal. Some of my female friends are uninterested in getting married to desi guys purely because the men want them to drop their 200k/year jobs, have babies and then have no say in their financial situation. No one is dumb enough to fall for that trap. Send your kids to daycare when maternity leave ends at 12 weeks like normal people or stop whining about having to share your money.
