Man, I almost fainted from a heart-attack at how seriously my previous comments were taken when i had clearly stated that they were were meant as a joke and NOT a serious suggestion. Hehehe :)
My point was to (in a funny way) to illustrate that it's so easy for us to find a scapegoat for our problems and not even think about our own possible roles in a situation. For example, it's natural to feel embarrassed about a fire especially if you are the hostess as you want to make a positive impression. It's easy to blame the guest for the fire. But it takes courage to reflect on how that fire might have been prevented or if any carelessness from YOUR OWN end had played a role.
People like Mall's MIL.......when things go wrong.........are neither mature enough to contemplate individual responsibility in mistakes.............nor are they willing to leave things on Allah. They just want to point their finger at someone else. Wars and even genocide.....let alone Saas Bahu khich phich...... has taken place because of this mentality.
My earlier post was meant to hypothetically switch things around to show that an unfortunate situation can be viewed from another angle as well. I had assumed that the first line of my post which said "just trying to lighten the mood"....would imply from the GET GO to the reader that the "suggestions" contained were not being seriously advised. (Now matter how deserving the offender might be ;))