Why does it matter what people think?
And yes....qadam/superstition/Islam and the whole MIL/DIL age old conflict etc, etc is just so much rubbish to get into for such a little thing.
We really need to be honest with ourselves when we reflect on our actions. If there is no jealousy in this situation then there would be no issues accepting the "choti bahu kay qaddam mubarak hain" because it wouldn't matter.
The history that exists about the tent catching fire would not even matter today if the comment had originally been dismissed as the ramblings of an elderly person lacking knowledge of our faith.
If we are better than the generations that precede us then how do we show it? By holding grudges about comments that we fully expect?
I am not saying that these words do not hurt us. They do.
What I am saying is that if we cannot rise above them then we have not learned anything from our elders. We have not progressed as a community or as a faith.
Shame on us.
Well said. I agree that this stuff can be extremely hurtful. But with some people, it's just how they are. It's wrong. It shouldn't happen. But it does. What happens next is up to us.