I don't know if I can empathize with the lady under discussion here.
I do find the situations sad that she couldn't get married for whatever reasons. In our culture, most girls have trouble getting married if they're not so good looking. But isn't the case similar with guys as well with the only difference being the criterion being shifted from beauty to wealth/job? Yet again, losing control is not justifiable.
I know quite a few good and educated guys having trouble getting married who, for whatever reasons, couldn't get into a high paying career. The situation indeed is sad, and it's rooted into the superficiality that transcends through and through us. Girls become the victims of not being good looking enough, and guys, for not being wealthy enough.
It's very important that we have a paradigm shift here. In another thread in Life 1 recently we were discussing how girls have been rejecting guys over trivial matters like having short hair or how his mother was dressed up and similar crap. Isn't it good for both men and women to lower their bars on such stupid things? I am sure pretty much all of us can find a mate given that we have realistic expectations from life.
its not always about getting marrying. :) its about being rebellion.
just put yourself in a situation where you have six seven sibs, and you the middle one. there are load more girls in your father has a very low income and he is also very bossy.
one day some random guy tells you about your beauty and you start realizing that there is at least one person in this entire universe who notices you.
as one says "Ambition and conquest, without contribution, is without significance." we all want to make a history, and we all desire to feel our presence and to get ourselves noticed.