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January 22, 2010, 4:13am
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Happy in what sense?
She settled for less from the beginning here, so what is so great to be happy about?
1- She was longing for a relationship/marriage.
2- She got tired of waiting. Somehow not accepted by others to be good enough and being married. OK she was pretty and hot, no one could see her inner beauty as well.
3- She got pregnant just to have a child.
4- She took the risk of losing the man for it.
5- If the man stays, he is not really attached to her until married and she has no real claim on him. He could treat her anyway he likes. Sleep around, come home, treat her like a dirt. (I know some husbands may do it too)
6- If she loses him and she has enough money to raise the child by herself. Perhaps she could be satisfied, but she will always long for a relationship. Another man, giving her promises of stars and moon, get his satisfaction, leaves her by the dawn. We all know that don’t we?
Single mothers are treated by men worse in many different ways than just single women or their own wives.
Why, because single women let them and they have so called baggage. No matter how precious, lovely and valuable that baggage is.
That Jerry Maguire movie is just a movie despite being a great movie and having nice dialouges.
By the way I know none of such desi girls who have wealth by 30 years to be living like that without financial pressure, paying for utilities, expenses, medical care, baby sitter etc if working. Unless she won the lotto and they don’t play that either.
7- If she loses him and has no real assets, we know she will not be happy.
**So all this claim that single mother will be happy may not be a reality.
happy in the sense that of she felt she was going to be not married and without a kid versus being unmarried but with a kid.
you are comparing her current situation to what a better situation that could have existed
maybe her frame of reference is the worse condition that she saw in her life or in her future.
obviously at the end of the day, her choice depict her preferences and motivations which we may or may not share or understand, but similarly we then can not gauge her happiness based on our standards either.