Re: preaching by reasoning
Atlantis my friend if i had known right from the start that ur opinions are just ur own without bothering to see/read what Islam actually says about them , i would have told u to go get ur facts right first & then even think of attempting to criticise/accuse/demand changes in islam..
However, though you don't deserve it , i will still pay u the courtesy of answering ur self opinionated question.
You have asked me not to give quotes or quranic version of this topic of polgamy but my own words, while u have questioned this topic in Islam itself. How hypocritical of u!!..when one does not have logical answers, one tends to resort to these methods.
However, to satisfy ur ego, i will give u my own thoughts along with direct quotes from the quran as thats my first port of call & my reference points( If u dont have any reference point, then tough luck to you & maybe u should have spent sometime doing ur homework rather just talking about ur baseless opinions/accusations of Islam). If u want to discuss just personal opinions i suggest u open up a new thread or go to a different forum as i believe that we are in the religious forum & initial thread was preaching by reasoning in Islam.
Ok, first my own thoughts. I believe that polygamy should'nt be allowed in this day & age...plain & simple, on what to i base that? on the very Quran itself.
Now lets see what the Quran says:
If you ever get the chance or can even be bothered, open up the following verses in the Quran & you'll be surprised at ur own misconceptions or false accusations of Islam.
Verse 4:3 was revealed when the prophet(PBUH) was in Madina & had just been defeated in the battle of Uhud.. There were not many muslims (population wise ) at the time and during the battle many men folk were martyred.. Many females were left widowed and children orphaned. Widows of that time ( & even now in many countries) were pre-islamically looked down upon & isolated from society ( something still visible in the subcontinent in this day and age)..Because of these circumstances, Allah sent down this verse and gave permission to muslims men that they may take upto 4 wives to balance the equation and also show widows due respect and also so that orphans could continue to be part of family unit..If u read with tafseer u will also note that though permission was granted, it had very strict prerequisites.. those were, first of all that one had to gain permission from their wives ( very difficult in this day & age) first.. the second being that all wives had to be dealt equally, Being humans that is very difficult ( even the prophet(PBUH) found this difficult with all his perfections & often asked God for forgiveness.
It further goes on to say that if these pre-requisites are'nt followed then man will be answerable to God & God will hold account all those who practice polygamy..also mentioned in this verse is further reasons for this allowance ( at the time). Apart from taking care of women & orphans , it was to avoid social problems & to prevent major sins such as illegal sex & prostitution ( as was also rife in those days).. and it clearly states that intentions should not be for sexual pleasure( as one wife is enough for that) or male privelages or ego.
Later, when Mecca was conquered, and there was mass conversions to Islam, Allah then sent down another revelation ( and again incase u want evidence its in verse 4:129)..
This verse states that Allah discouraged & demanded a stop to this practice as it was no longer the need of the hour & also it is clearly mentioned that Allah says that man is unable to be fair to more than 1 wife even though he may desire to be. So 2 things u can take out of it, first was that permission was granted when it was required & 2nd was that God gave man a chance to be able to test for himself his levels of fairness to more than 1 spouse and man failed due to which it was discouraged.
So what u can take out of it is that it was allowed when it was the need of the hour..and discouraged & adviced to stop it when it was'nt...It is still in the Quran , so common sense says that if a similar situation to Madina arose again, it could be used ( obviously with all the pre-requisites)...but that is not the case currently so it is highly discouraged & not recommended.
Revelations came to the prophet (PBUH) for 23 yrs and there were particular verses for particular circumstances ( like the example above).
Unfortunately muslims of today open the quran & read something without attempting to understand the context. they take virgin wives for their own sexual pleasure which is completely out of synch with qurans teachings...And then allow people like u to have a field day by degrading islam..Obviously, i blame the ignorant muslims for that.
I go to work, i wear trousers a shirt a tie, i don't have a beard (not that theres anything wrong with it), i am able to sit with colleagues of the opposite sex & have a professional relationship with them with out any thoughts of me thinking i'm of a superior sex ( another misconception)..il like to go out and enjoy myself and have a laugh with family, friends etc but all in moderacy, as thats what my religion teaches me..Islam abores extremism in any shape or form.
I really dont know what kind of muslims u hang out with or get info. from or make examples of, but all i can say is that ur info on Islam is based on pure ignorance..you really have a nerve to come on to this forum and demand changes to something u don't have a clue about..I dont know what ur religion is, but i would never attempt to question it (for the least) let alone ask for a update/innovation without reading about it as my religion forbids talking about something u don't have a clue about plus it would be ignorence and hypocritical on my part.
I think u have chosen an appropriate name for yrself (atlantis) as yr opinions are as non existent as ur name.
I think i have given u more time than u deserve as i had promised to answer your unresearched query.
I dont think i want to further this discussion with yourself as you are too opinionated which are based on ignorence....If u have any evidence in the future to accusations of Islam ( not based on your direct contact with God???)
be more coherent & logical , otherwise u won't be getting any replies from me!
Good luck .