Pre-Nuptial Agreements

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How would you feel if your significant other asked you to sign a pre-nup? Would you feel insulted or have any problems with it at all?

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hmm i dunno i might feel untrusted..

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Well, I was watching an episode of Sex and the City where Charlotte's to be mother-in-law wants her to sign a pre-nup. It got me thinking .... does the concept of a pre-nup even exist in our community? I don't think it does. What would a person do in an arranged marriage situation? Would it even work/apply in that scenario?

I think I would be insulted. To me, it shows a lack of trust and faith in me and the 'marriage'.

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If there is a lot of money involved, I would.

I doubt I’ll be that big of an earner though :blush:

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hmm yeah i dunno whether there is a concept or not... b/w what do u sign in a pre-nup?

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I like your name Mehnaz :rolleyes:

Regarding pre-nuptials, if the guy has lots of assets involved then it doesn’t necessarily show lack of trust, but vision. One needs to look forward and protect what they’ve worked for, although it will understandably cause jitters in the other half. Theres 2 sides to the coin.

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ok what is pre-nuptial? sorry for being so paindo :(

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^ its ok.. i dont really know either..

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I would have no problem with it, really, depends on what it said though

close to nothing in case of divorce - no problem but on the event he dies naturally before me, I should inherit (unless there's kids).

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prenup is a legal agreeement stating that if you two were to divorce, the other person isn’t entitled to any of your money. it’s used to weed out golddiggers..it’s a sticky and sensitive thing to deal with, as you may trust ur partner but u still want to protect the money you worked so hard to earn. most prenups though have specifications. i hear bout celebrities who put down that if their partner cheats, they get a few million dollars or something like that

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The other issue that naive idealists have with pre-nups is that if someone proposes a pre-nup, it means that they are considering the marriage failing.

The naive idealist goes into the marriage believing that it will last till death do the couple apart, and feels that if their partner-to-be wants a pre-nup it means they are already thinking of the marriage failing. Then they get freaked out over marrying someone who's not 100% sure the marriage will last forever, because they think the person is not 100% commited to the marriage.

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'Starsky'? If we could all be blessed with such wonderful names. :)

Mad Sci, you summed it up. I understand the other person wants to protect their assets, (which I'm sure they slaved away long hours at the office so that they could afford it all) but still, there's that assumption that the other person will clean you out if you get divorced so they need to 'control' how much you'll get in advance through the pre-nup.

It just seems more like a business arrangement. It's so cold.

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"Will you...sign a pre-nup with me?" isn't the sexiest proposal, either.

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well darn straight. if my parner cheated on me, i'd like to clean them out as well - a prenup with such a condition is great for that.

Unfortunately you do have gold diggers. Why not just sign the damn thing? If you're really sincere about the marriage, and you know you're not marrying for the money, then why not sign it?

Too many people have been hurt by getting married, and then being wiped clean financially by the person that tricked them. I say its a safe measure, and it doesn't hurt.

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I guess I’m the only one who finds it insulting. Blah, oh well. Thank goodness I probably won’t be signing one … at least not anytime soon. :bummer:

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I would feel insulted aswell :o

infact, if a girl/woman/guy ever tells me to sign any such paper, I ll fire her right away :o

I dont want such a begum :o

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When the concept of Mehr in Islamic Nikkah, was explained to me it seemed like a form of pre nup agreement.

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That is ok, PCG…its usually MEN who earn the big bucks for women to spend. Men rule the world. :slight_smile:

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Mehnaz, I don't think its Islamic. Divorce is highly disapproved of in Islam and to go into a marriage with such an agreement just doesn't seem right. There is the Mehr, which is an agreed some of money at the time of nikkah that the guy gives to the girl if there's a divorce.

I could be wrong, but it seems so materialistic to me.

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I think one reason many of us have not heard of pre-nups in desi community is because desis are generally not rich enough at the time they are marrying somoene. This is mostly an issue for those who are born ultra-rich or those who are marrying a second or third time at a later age when they have a lot of money they wanna protect. Really makes little sense to protect your $5,000 in the bank and a $220,000 mortgage.