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Except for arranged marriages, when they transfer the liability from the parents family to the groom's side. Is the cash=kind in that case?
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^ I don't think it has to do with that.
Anyway, how do you sign a pre-nup, through a lawyer?
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No you are right, and I agree with you its very materialistic.
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It is common sense...unless you are marrying for love..you should have a pre-nup (eitherway) because your assets need to be protected, god forbid, the wife turns out to be a frigid lesbian or you husband an impotent and/or gay fool. Love would conquer all...but not if it is arranged.
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catty - that is the best way, have it screened by a lawyer, all documents that potentially could end up in court should be looked at by a lawyer.
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Mehr is not something paid at the time of divorce…the husband is obligated to pay it to the wife after marriage…in most cases men dont do it…and in cases where the marriage ends it gets paid at the time of divorce.
Its the right of the wife, if she wants she can tell the husband that she doesnt want it or she can ask him to pay it to her at any point of time after the marriage.
I agree with the pre-nup being materialistic…but then i guess people think of it as a way to protect themselves as the divorce rate seems to be pretty high in the west…and sadly the divorce rate seems to be going up in the east too, so maybe people will adopt this too like they seem to have done with other stuff.
on a not so serious note
Kaleem: That is ok, PCG…its usually MEN who earn the big bucks for women to spend. Men rule the world 
Yes they sure do…and women get to rule the hearts of those who rule the world 
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Everything in an arranged marriage is pretty calculated. Wealth, background, education, height, colour, race, religion…How is a poor pre-nup going to do add any more rudeness to the whole setup. None whatsoever.
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Hahahha… I would think the long list of “required jahaiz” (that is still rampant in some segments of our society) is the perfect desi form of pre-nup.
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prenup forms are da shiznittt.....make sure u dont get married without signing one :D
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I think a lot of posters here have too many misconceptions about what a pre-nup actually is. It is simply a contract where you can layout any requirements, financial or otherwise, that you have going into the marriage. Essentially the contract you sign at your nikkah is a pre-nup. You can (and should) put any condition you have in this document, from the amount of the mahr to the amount of delayed payment that you will receive (usually in the event of divorce, your husbands death, or anytime you decide you want it), the prospect of second marriage, your living arrangements, the right of divorce for a wife (not khula), etc. It is reasonable that in the west, due to the divorce laws, a man may want to protect some of his assets as well.
The problem is that due mostly to cultural bakwaas, you are not safeguarding your rights by laying things out clearly in this contract. I have noticed that some of my Arab friends have very detailed nikkah namas, while most Pakistanis have a simple page with a few check boxes, with a pathetically small amount of mahr that wouldn't support them for more than a few days. More education is certainly needed in this area.
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On the face of it my question might sound naive as normally pre-nups are signed before getting married .
But can it be signed/entered into later in the life if husband or wife accumulate some wealth and assets or inherits them ?
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Pre-nups are infact allowed in Islam, but what is in them has to be within Islamic guidelines. They dont only have to do with money issues always.
I wouldnt be offended if he asked me to sign one.
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***In Fact all Muslims when getting married are agreeing to a pre nuptual agreement.
it is called Haq Mehr.............half due at time of Rukhsati half postponed incase there is divorce............
Check it out............
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I think a lot of posters here have too many misconceptions about what a pre-nup actually is. It is simply a contract where you can layout any requirements, financial or otherwise, that you have going into the marriage. Essentially the contract you sign at your nikkah is a pre-nup. You can (and should) put any condition you have in this document, from the amount of the mahr to the amount of delayed payment that you will receive (usually in the event of divorce, your husbands death, or anytime you decide you want it), the prospect of second marriage, your living arrangements, the right of divorce for a wife (not khula), etc. It is reasonable that in the west, due to the divorce laws, a man may want to protect some of his assets as well.
Exactly...u said it girl!