Post marriage independence, privacy or abandoning your parents?

Your personal experience is only your own and limited to you. You had a bad experience but that doesnt mean everyone else did or will. I know of plenty of couples who live with inlaws and are doing fine and I also know of couples who arent doing all that great.

The point is, you dont know what anyone on this forum has been through and its none of your concern. Trying to disqualify someone else's opinion isnt very nice.

As for living with inlaws being different from living with your parents...well...that is pretty obvious isnt it?