the thing is if a man wants to keep his wife with his parents he has to be wise and fair enough to stop conflicts from arising. He has to be strong. Also he should tell both parents and wife separately and strictly that both are important to him and he would not tolerate any disrespect for the other party from either one. coz if he is weak or leans more towards any party the other party gets hurt. As much as you love your parents and want to stay with them unless you have the guts to stop conflicts from arising they will arise. If problems arise and things get bitter between your parents and wife it might get harder to move out and moving out at that point will hurt the parents even more.
now Janwar when you say if your inlaws need help you would let your wife take care for them and provide them support but it will just mean by visiting.right? you wouldn't move in with them coz u r living with ur parents. So if its ok for wife to take care of her parents while still living away why a son can't do that?
moving out is the best option not only for independence and privacy sake but for sake of sanity and peace. and ofcourse all of us love to think that our parents r the best and would harm no one esp their own dils.
*i can see all girls who say they would love to live with their in laws are unmarried. their ideas weigh less until moving in with their husband's family. *
With all due respect Mabrook, I beg to differ with that last part. Only because you have no idea why these "unmarried" girls say what they do. How do you know they havent been through it already? Its an assumption on your part to say that and dismiss someone else's opinion just to help your own.